(Closed) I have a question…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017

I love a big bad ass sparkly ring, if I didn’t have my ring, I would happily of had any stone that created the same big sparkly look I wanted.  

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’ve just seen the 3ct moissy thread which I think you commented on just before posting this… I really hope this wasn’t a dig at that Bee.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

This is a really petty, unecessary thread which, whether it was your intention or not, could hurt people’s feelings. I think you should close and delete it, Bee 

Post # 19
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Helper bee

Beegritte :  I agree!

This is an unsolvable battle – there are unfortunately always going to be idiots who think that love is measured in monetary terms and who think those with any other ‘white’ stone are just pretending they have a ‘real’ diamond!!

I would love it if we could all celebrate with those that love their rings whatever size or colour and just provide helpful advice about what to do for those who don’t like their ring or can’t decide which ring to choose!

I’m old enough and wise enough to realise that ain’t gonna happen though 😢

Post # 20
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Worker bee

If someone lies to their friends about having somethine when it is something else, it has to do with insecurity.

My best friends cousin had an amazing 2.5ct diamond that she always showed off on parties we all went to. Bringing up how much it was worth and spex etc. Made some snarky remarks about how my cousin is so different to her because she ‘settled for less’ with her 0.8ct diamond. Of course this didn’t make my bff happy, but she loved her ring and that was it. Later it turned out her cousins ring was not a real diamond, which is absolutely fine, as long as you aren’t shitting all over someone else and lying to everyone to make yourself look/feel better.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

theatrejulia :  actually, some of them do…Im not mentioning any names but there was a post recently as long as my arm and every second sentence was , and i quote, ” people always think it a diamond” and “even jewellers have told me it is the real deal” If that is not someone hoping the world thinks she is sporting a diamond i dont know what is…..

I had never even heard of a moissy before the “bee” and im still not even convinced they are as pretty as people say based on the pics i have seen, but everyone is different…sure they are great for those who want something “other” than a diamond but they certainly do not seem to be right for those who want them to “look” like a diamond 

 

I personally love my diamonds…

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper

annieem :  There is a difference between “people think” and “I tell people”… yeah, there will always be people passing off it as diamond as it is more socially acceptable. Who cares? 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

sscott06 :  

Really, you don’t understand?? Let’s be real – we may or may not AGREE with it, but I think we all “understand” it. 

I never heard of anyone getting anything other than a diamond before coming to this board…personally, I don’t care what anyone else has on their finger, but I care about what is on mine. To each his/her own…

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I also was never aware of non-diamond erings before becoming a bee. Maybe I didn’t notice because I didn’t care? Or maybe it never came up in conversation IRL. I think people’s assumptions are based largely on the wearer’s social circles, (which includes age and geography) as many bees have said over and over. I also think assumptions are based on the jewelry that someone wears prior to becoming engaged. Either way, who cares whether the wearer wants to disclose the molecular makeup of a stone? I don’t. 

I think diamonds are basically a dumb item to spend lots of money on, and the diamond industry is troubled to say the least. But in spite of myself, I have spent more than I like to calculate and I love wearing them anyway.

Nothing wrong with a diamond or gemstone or simulant of any size. At the end of the day, we should all be lucky enough to have an ering that represents love and commitment between the wearer and wearer’s partner. Bonus if we also love wearing it. And if an item of jewelry is just an accessory, like most of my jewelry, we should enjoy it just the same. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

annieem :  Good for you being able to afford your diamonds and things…

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’m a little surprised at the 180 in this topic compared to others like it. Others have made topics discussing people passing off different stones as diamonds on the boards and the majority go on to discuss dishonesty/offense at being lied to. It also never takes long for a huge backlash to ensue on any bee that seems to be passing off a ring on here as diamond when it’s not (or at least assumed not). So, it’s a little funny to me that this one seems to have the opposite response.

However, that said, I do think this is easy bait for drama and it should be closed. I also don’t think it’s really of anyone’s concern. If someone is blatantly lying about their ring to others then that’s on them. If it gives them a little more joy or confidence boost then it really doesn’t affect my life any. Chances are I’m not going to know if it’s real/fake and wouldn’t say something even if I did. I’ll probably still think the stone is pretty all the same and move on with my day.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

mrsb616 :  Thank you, I have been fortunate enough to have “diamonds and things” as you put it but dont forget that alot of bees have the moissy through choice, they love how they look, not because they cant afford diamonds , everyone is different.

This thread addressed those who want their moissy to appear to be something they are not, hearing  other peoples opinions should be interesting, not perceived as catty 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

annieem :  You’ve singed a person out which I dislike. As I said earlier, if someone wants to pass off their Moissy as a diamond then who cares? Their choice. A lot of these “why would people try to pass them off as diamonds?” posts read like “well I can afford diamonds so how dare anyone else pretend to have diamonds when I can afford expensive things and they can’t”. I agree, a lot do have Moissy rings because they love how they look (more than a diamond). The topic was about people passing off clear stones as diamonds though not whether they’re ugly or not.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The people who are intentionally trying to pass big sims as diamonds want the look and enjoy the status/attention a big honking 3 carat diamond gives them but they dont have 40k to spend on jewelry at the moment.

I think people doing it more passively with “reasonable” sizes probably just feel a lot of pressure to have a diamond and dont care to be the martyr for the moissy cause all the time.

I dont judge the latter, the first ones silly IMO but who cares.

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