(Closed) I have a question, and hopefully someone has an answer!!

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you need to pick up the phone and call the church you intend to marry you and discuss this with them. In my experience, each church does things slightly differently so it would be difficult to get a correct answer in an online forum.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@KH:  this. Not baptism related, but we found that even policies regarding processional music varied from Catholic church to Catholic church in our area (like within 15 mins of eachother) so it is probably best to call the churches and ask 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think that if you pick a nearby church that you like, and take RCIA classes, and go to Mass there and “get involved,” that is a great start, and then that church will probably be able to help you with whatever you need, if they see that you are committed to it, even if you plan on moving in a year. You might even be able to have a priest at the nearby church do all the preparation to marry you.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly if he gets baptised at a catholic church you will be fine. Many couples don’t marry at a church they were both members of, there’s no problem with that.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You would have to ask them but I think as slong as he is catholic at the time of the wedding the church shouldnt have any problems. Also they should accept his classes from another catholic church

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Your Fiance will definitely be fine as far as baptism goes, no matter which church it takes place in, so choose a parish nearby that you both like.

As far as marriage preparation: is the church where you’re going to get married in the same diocese as where you live now? If so, your lives are a little easier, because you might have to do a few marriage prep things for both your home parish and the parish where the wedding will be, but the diocese will have the same requirements.

If you live in one diocese and are getting married in another, you might have to do a few extra things. Definitely still workable, though – my sister and her Fiance got married on the West Coast (his home parish) even though they were both living on the East Coast. They did have to complete marriage prep requirements for both their home diocese and the diocese & church where they got married, although some of them were the same/nearly the same, so what they did in New York “counted” for the other diocese.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

yes because the church keeps a record and you just have to have his baptismal records sent to the church at home. They add it to thier records and then add the marriage all is good and flowing as it should. If he waits then its 6 months of RCIA before he can do anything.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

He can get baptised in any Catholic Church, wherever he likes. What matters is being baptised, not where that happened.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Any church whether it be catholic OR christian. You do not have to be a catholic to marry a catholic just proof of being baptized in a denomination acceptable to the catholic church. Basically as long as it’s a denomnation that belives Christ is Lord.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You don’t have to get married in the church you were baptized as long as he is baptized he can bring his certificate to the church you are marrying in.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

He can take RCIA classes to get baptized at any Catholic church. Choose one close to your current houses. Then you can attend Mass together as well. Not to sound pushy or anything, but I know most RCIA programs start Labor Day and run through Easter Vigil, so it might be something to look into sooner rather than later so he doesn’t miss a lot at the beginning.

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