(Closed) I have a question for all bees already engaged or married….

posted 10 years ago in Proposals
Post # 77
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had picked out the ring and stone together, and a week or so later a slip fell out of his wallet when I was gassing up the car with the date that the ring would be ready to pick up on…and I was still SO suprised. Even if you know exactly what the ring looks like, it takes a while to get used to having it on, and you stare at the sparkliness constantly ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t stress yourself out about it

Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t have an engagment ring, i just have the wedding band.

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I definitely knew the ring was coming (He’s a dummy and left the layaway receipt laying out)…. and even had an idea when he decided we needed to go camping THAT weekend. But I was trying so hard to convince myself it wasn’t going to happen – so I wouldn’t be disappointed if it didn’t – that I really was surprised haha

Post # 80
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I also went and picked out the ring with him and still managed to be surprised. This could be because he held onto it for several months, so by the end of month 1 I was like “Maybe he returned it….?” haha. I think it gave me just enough time to get over the shock of the ring and gave HIM long enough to figure out a “surprise” type thing. It was all very cute and romantic. I think the proposal will always be special, even if you know EXACTLY when it is/will be. It’s not about the ring or the place, it’s what he says and your reactions. ๐Ÿ™‚

Congrats! (Though early)

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I knew basically from the start that I was going to marry my hubby and I knew he felt the same way.  I just had NO clue when he would feel ready to ask me and to be fair, neither did he!  We hadn’t looked at rings and in fact when he proposed, he didn’t have a ring to give me.  We picked out my ring (and then later our wedding rings) together later on.

Post # 82
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

it didn’t ruin anything!! I was there when he bought the ring but it didn’t hit me that we were actually getting married until he proposed like a month later! i still can;t believe he made me wait so long hahah i started balling and was by far the happiest person ever…it was amazing

Post # 83
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I knew he was proposing because I just had a feeling and he was acting so sketchy…I knew it down to the day of when he was going to propose (and I was right) but I was still totally surprised and it was an amazing feeling!

Post # 84
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Those naysayers are rubbish.  I picked out my ring with Mr. BrassBand four months ago, and I can tell you when he finally did it (yesterday) I was so stunned I couldn’t read the menu at dinner!  For me, it wasn’t about being surprised or caught off guard, it was about the fact that we were committing to each other for the rest of our lives.  Isn’t that the most exciting part of all?  Laughing

Post # 85
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Mrs.ice: I went with my SO to look at rings last october, I tried ones on and said what i liked and didnt like. I am really impatient and kept bugging him to know if he bought the ring, he eventually gave in and told me that he had. I didnt know what ring, or when he would propose. He managed to catch me completely off gaurd and surprise me. I dont think that you have anything to worry about. You will probably not know when he will propose, and that in its self will make it a surprise. Congrats in advance!

Post # 86
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It doesn’t mean that the surprise is ruined, just because you know it is coming.  DH and I talked about marriage a lot before he proposed, so that we were on the same page.  We also picked out ring types we liked. 

In the end, he ended up telling me that he was proposing at such and such time because it was going to be on stage and he wanted me to feel comfortable.  It was still a surprise because the ring was a complete surprise.  So, I would have preferred it to be out of the blue, but maybe not considering it was in front of all of those people!

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The goldsmith who made my ring actually “ruined” my surprise when he called me and left a vm telling me that “he received an email about a ring” and “congratulations” –he assumed that my Fiance had already proposed and that we were coming to see him to design the ring together! In his defense, that is usually the case for customers at his shop. But even months before that, my Fiance had me draw him pictures of ring designs that I liked on the very same day he traded in his car for a lump sum of cash AND telling me “3 years is enough time” over dinner. Even if you know the proposal is coming, it is still a surprise on the day is actually happens, the way he asks, etc.

Post # 88
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fiance and I knew we were getting married within the next two years, we’d talked about where we’d live after I graduated and that sort of thing. My grandma told me that she had a ring for me, so I’d already seen the ring before he even knew it was there! 

Still, I was beyond shocked when he actually proposed. The ring was shiny and sized for me, he planned a huge surprise, and you really could have knocked me over with a feather. That feeling is amazing, and so so different than thinking about it or knowing it’s coming, that moment is great. 

Post # 89
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was there when he bought the ring online, he found it, I agreed that I liked it. We both had the password to log in and check it’s progress (ordered from moissaniteco) and we both had the tracking number once it finally got sent. 

I first saw the ring in “real life” over webcam, because it arrived while I was in class. It was still amazing when I finally got home and he sat me down, showed me the ring and asked if I would be his wife. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 90
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I picked mine out online and he paid.

Post # 91
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I gave him suggestions. I even knew when it came in the mail.

Personally, I don’t like surprises all that much and don’t see what the big deal is with them.

It ended up being a surprised, cuz he surpised me by visiting me, but of course once I saw him I knew it was coming. I guess I don’t mind surprises when they work out! ๐Ÿ™‚

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