(Closed) I have a wedding dress, and no fiance.

posted 11 years ago in Dress
  • poll: To Keep or to Sell?

    Keep the dress

    Sell the dress, give the money back to my parents

    Sell the dress, use the $$ to buy another

  • Post # 3
    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Keep it if you love it and your Fiance is OK with it.

    Post # 4
    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I agree with your future Fiance.. I don’t see a problem with wearing the dress you have. You never had pictures taken in it, never walked down the aisle in it… right now it’s just a dress in your closet. But it’s up to you ultimately.

    Post # 5
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Well, this is totally a personal choice — there are obviously pros & cons to each decision, and I could see why you’d go either way.  I would sell it, give the money to my parents, and buy another, simpler dress that didn’t have any ties to the old wedding.  I would just feel like it was weird to wear the dress in which I was going to marry someone ELSE. 

    Post # 6
    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If it were me I would sell it and use the money to get something better suited for where I am in life now. Rather than having remnants of the past relationship at the new wedding. Especially if you are thinking of going simpler this time. Maybe you could break even budget-wise.

    But it’s not me… it’s totally up to you, hon!

    Post # 7
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    If you could have any dress in the world, would it be this dress?

    If yes, then keep it, if no, then sell it.  I doubt your parents would accept the money back if they are the way you described them, so you may be able to use that money towards a new dress.  If I were you, I would wait until you are actually engaged.  Go on a shopping trip or two and see if there are other dresses out there that suit you better at this point in your life.  If you find that you now love a simpler style, then sell the old dress.  If you find yourself drawn to things that are very much like the old dress, then stick with it.

    Post # 8
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You have to love your dress. Do you LOVE this dress you have? Or do you think you would like a different type of dress even better?

    I don’t know how much time it’s been since you got the dress, but if you or your parents had a problem with keeping the dress, i think it would have been returned after the break-up. So I say either keep the dress if, like your Fiance says, you feel beautiful in it, or talk to your parents about selling the dress to get a new one. But you need to answer the original questions first.

    Post # 9
    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think if you really love the dress and you want to wear it for your future wedding then I think you should keep it.  If you really feel you want something different now look around and see if you can get something you like cheaper. You may be surprised.

    Post # 10
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Keep it. If your SO’s cool with it, and you’re cool with it, that’s an expense you don’t have to worry about now. However, if you think wearing it will give you any bad feelings or thoughts of your ex on your wedding day, sell it and use the money towards a new dress.

    As far as your parents are concerned, I don’t think you should feel guilty. They gave you a gift – paying for your wedding. True, the wedding didn’t happen, but that’s beside the point. Would they rather you have gotten married and be miserable or divorced now? Anyway, they were willing to put forth money for your wedding, and they did. I think it’s good that you’re not expecting them to pay again, but I don’t think you’re obligated to pay it back. Isn’t paying for your wedding now like paying it back?

    Post # 11
    1636 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It’s obviously your decision but if I was in your shoes I would sell the dress and give the money to my parents. Even though it doesn’t equal what they lost in the deposits and they haven’t asked for it back I think it is a nice gesture. If they insist you keep the money then I would use it to buy a new dress that has no ties to the past! Good luck!

    Post # 12
    3538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I agree with the previous poster about selling it and giving the money to your parents.

    BUT then again, I know how hard it is to find a dress, if you got one and you never have worn it, Why not??

    I dont see the problem.



    Post # 13
    5495 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If your Fiance is okay with it there is no problem with keeping it!

    Post # 14
    272 posts
    Helper bee

    Financially, you probably wouldn’t make back enough money on the dress to justify the new expense of buying another one (like, if you get back $500 and buy a new dress for $250, you’ve only recouped 25% of the original dress).  Instead, why not keep it, wear it, and then sell it? 

    Post # 15
    2194 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    It sounds like you’d prefer a very different dress even now to the style of the one you’ve had.  That alone should convince you to forget the few hundred dollars you’d lose and find something that suits you better that you could still afford after you sold the dress in your closet (assuming you kept the money).  But then there’s the fact that it’s the dress you were going to wear to marry another man. I don’t know about you, but I think most women would find that kind of weird.  I would hope you could go through you wedding day without looking in the mirror and being reminded a lot of the relationship you had before and the wedding you were planning back then.  Plus, let’s be honest here: you described this dress as “ornate”, and if it’s anything less than a simple and very classic dress, it’s probably going to look a bit dated by the time your wedding rolls around (how many years will it have been since you purchased it?).  Plus you might not even be the same size and you might have to spend a few hundred on alterations!  You don’t want to do that for a dress that you don’t love as much anymore, and one that you bought to symbolize your previous relationship.

    That’s just my take.

    Post # 16
    9048 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    For me, I think I would have to think long and hard about whether I bought the first dress because I felt like it was the only dress for me, or if I bought it because it was what I thought my fiance would love to see me in.  If it’s the latter, I wouldn’t want to feel like I’m wearing the dress meant for someone else down the aisle.

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