Post # 17
To me it doesn’t sound like you are in love with the dress or think it’s the only one you could ever be happy with. It sounds like you would wear it for the simple reasons of a) saving money and b) not having to go dress shopping again. For me, those aren’t good enough reasons because I am big on fresh starts and new memories 🙂 I’d sell it and offer the money to your parents. They might not accept it in which case you can use the money for another dress. If they do accept it, it might help you feel less guilty 🙂 And you can buy a dress that you *do* love, that suits the wedding you’re planning and suits you and your FI’s tastes as well.
Post # 18
If money is the main reason you were thinking of selling it, I would just do this after the wedding and give that money to your parents. However, if you want to sell it because you feel bad that it was meant for your previous Fiance or because you don’t love it anymore, go ahead and sell it now.
Post # 19
If you love this dress and you know its the one when you put it on then keep it!!!!! If your Fiance is ok with it and if your ok with wearing it then just keep the dress!!! Thats one less worry that you have to do when you plan your next wedding.
Post # 20
Like @Soon2beeMrsM, I would sell it and give the money back to my parents. If they refused, I would use the money to buy a new dress.
Post # 21
Thanks for your feeback, Bees! I think I’ve come to the conclusion that while it’s a very nice dress, I don’t want to wear it on my wedding day. So, selling it it is! I will be giving the $$ back to my parents. I’d rather start with a clean slate when I do marry my SO.
With that said, where do you recommend selling it? There’s a local bridal consignment store I could sell it through, and I will obviously be posting it in the WB Classifieds, but does anyone suggest any other avenues? I don’t really want to post it on CL and have 10 ladies trying it on…
Post # 22
I second JennyPenny. You’d probably only get a fraction of the cost back, and then have to respend that money down the road. If you do like the dress, keep it.
Post # 23
YAY!!! I’m glad you made that choice.. I personally just couldn’t imagine getting married in a dress that was intended for a previous wedding. I just don’t think I would be able to shake the thought. And trust me, the perfect one for you this time around is out there! You will find it and love it even more than the other one.
I am sure your parents will also reeeeally appreciate your gesture, too. It is very thoughtful of you 🙂
I would definitely try http://www.oncewed.com
Post # 24
Vonnegurl, that’s been my logical argument the whole time. But in the end, I guess I’d rather spend a bit more money that reuse something I can’t shake bad memories out of. It’s unfortunate, but…oh well. 🙂
Thanks, gocubbies! Appreciate the link too.
Post # 25
I must have posted right as you were ;). It sounds like you’re making a good decision for yourself! Truth be told, I’d probably resell it if it were me. Best of luck!
Post # 26
thats so weird im in the same boat ive actually started dating someone who has serious Fiance potential and he knows about my dress and the first thing he was was you bought because you loved it not because your ex loved it! such a sweetie.. i say if you still love it keep it, if not start over!
Post # 27
I would not keep the dress – bad karma. That was the dress you were going to wear to marry another man – and if you’re anything like me you probably envisaged wearing it on the big day walking down the aisle a 1000 times. It’s cool that your Fiance has no problem with that, he sounds lovely, but it will always be a dress with memories of your ex-FI attached to it. Sell the dress and move on. Don’t worry about your parents. They love you and I am sure would prefer a cancelled wedding to years of heartbreak. I totally get why you’re feeling bad though – I often thought what I would do in a similar situation and once you’re on the wedding merry-go-round it’s so hard to get off it. Amazing for being so courageous…