Post # 1
Ok, I am going to start this out by saying – I am NOT going to have a ‘hippy guru mystic psychic’ wedding, as my dad so lovingly refers to my food. ðŸ™ƒ My cousin had a vegan wedding, and it still stands as the most loathed event in family history (I loved it, but the rest of my family started the day with a trip to Arbys, because they knew there wasn’t going to be anything to eat there.)
Anyway, so disclaimer out of the way. We found our venue. It’s in my home town, has a beautiful garden and waterfall, and my family loves the food they serve. I am thrilled with it, and so is my family – which is important, because my wonderful parents are helping us pay for the whole event and I want them to enjoy the day along with us. So, here’s my question.
My fiancé and I have a weird take on food. I love to cook, and I am very into health and wellness as well as sustainability and envioronmentalism. We don’t eat out, we only eat at home, and we really enjoy cooking and making meals for the week which are sustainable, organic, healthy and delicious. I have thyroid problems (hypothyroid) that I have completely healed with food, and Fiance has solved most of his skin / gastro problems with food as well. If we eat out, we both pay for it dearly the next day. He will probably be fine eating the food for one day, but I know that I wont be. One day of poor eating sends my throid all out of whack.
I know that my family doesn’t enjoy the same food that we do – nor do our friends. So we’re doing a nice varied menu at our venue with my family’s input, so there is something for everyone. But there’s nothing for me to eat. How exactly do I bring food to my wedding without seeming weird? I bring my mason jars with me to school and work, and if we go out to eat I usually just snack on a fruit cup or some type of salad until I can go home and eat- but I don’t want to be at my wedding starving to death all day. What would you guys do?
Post # 2
You can’t get what you want catered? You get sick unless every bite of food you eat is literally made by your hands? Sounds like an exhausting and limiting situation.
Post # 3
Can you do a generic ‘guest friendly’ menu with like smaller plates of vegan food, both for you and the few guests you may have that eat similarly?
I frankly wasn’t a fan of a lot of the food at my wedding (too fancy, too much meat lol), but I made sure there were a couple things I DID like, and I was happy but so were all of my guests :). I chose food to make the general population happy, not just me. Plus it was buffet style so it was super easy for people to pick and choose what they wanted.
Post # 4
ohana : Plan, prepare and bring yourself snacks to eat throughout the day. Often the bride and groom are interrupted when they are trying to eat, so snacks might work better anyhow.
Have the caterer prepare a salad that you can eat with some protein so it lasts.
Post # 5
ohana : pack your food and ask the venue to plate it up for you like they would with your guests. I don’t see why it would be weird for you as I’m sure your family and friends are used to you being selective about what you eat for your health issue. ðŸ™‚
Glad to see you and fiance have been able to manage your health through diet. I think we as a society still underestimate how much diet and what we put in our mouth correlates with our health.
Post # 6
Can you bring your own food and have the catering staff plate it up for you so that it’s pretty unobtrusive?
Post # 7
Can you ask for a special meal for yourself be prepared due to your dietary considerations?
Where you provide the ingredients?
Post # 8
fredthebasil : It is exhausting, for sure. Not EVERYTHING will make me sick, but it happens often and randomly, so it has become easier to just make everything myself. Sometimes I am fine with a salad. Other times I am not. Sometimes I am ok with a soup. Other times I am not. I know what I can tolerate, and do I really want to take that chance on my wedding day? I eat an autoimmune friendly diet. It works for me and I am very used to it, now.
jbeebee : No one else eats like I do. I have to eat a strict autoimmune diet.
julies1949 : Sometimes that’ll work, other times it doesn’t. Maybe I can have them just transfer some of my own food to their bowls so it doesn’t look as weird?
Post # 9
Ask them to make something special just for you (and your groom if need be) and take your own food and snacks, too. No apologies required. Do whatever you have to do to make sure you are not miserable at your own wedding.
Post # 10
beethree : my sister did this for her wedding and it worked great. She has several extreme food allergies and if she eats the wrong thing it can make her sick for days. She brought snacks and food from home in tupperware to eat throughout the day, and had them make one meal for her that didn’t have the items she can’t eat in it.
Post # 11
I’m curious how you cure hypothyroidism with food? I was just diagnosed. I say, pop a Levothyroxine that day and you’ll be good to go. Plus, I wasn’t diagnosed for years, you will probably be fine for one day.
Post # 12
ohana : What is an autoimmune diet?
I second the bringing food and having them plate it for you..
Post # 13
ohana : You said that you eat a fruit cup or a salad when you go out
If that’s not going to work for you, you already know the answer. Bring your own food and have them plate it for you. What other answer is there?
Post # 14
RedHeadKel : I was wondering the same thing. How do you cure hypothyroidism with diet?
Post # 15
I am confused — can’t you have the caterers make you what you want? Or just make it yourself and give it to them to serve you? How does the identity of the food preparer affect the food — or are you just worried that you can’t trust the caterers to make exactly what you request and to source the food exactly as you want?