(Closed) I have a work crush and it's making me miserable

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

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heylisten:  The comments will probably end now that you say you won’t contact David anymore.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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heylisten:  I think it’s also normal to feel a little “holy sh*t, I’m going to be married an a couple of months”, that may make you more open to enjoying the attention from other men.  Strangely enough, I just posted this article on a different feed about an SO emotionally cheating (not that I’m saying that’s what you are doing).  Check it out to be able to gauge what is appropriate and the kinds of boudaries that are healthy to have with members of the opposite sex.

http://www.twoofus.org/educational-content/articles/preventing-infidelity-how-to-stop-affairs-before-they-start/index.aspx

Post # 18
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Busy bee

OP, the Internet is full of people who say things that they wouldn’t dream of saying in real life, because they’d get a smack in the mouth 🙂 don’t let it get to you. 

Onto your issue.  It’s good that you feel bad because it means you know it’s a boundary you shouldn’t cross. It shows that you want to resolve it. Can you limit your interactions with David? A crush in itself isn’t bad, but you do need to distance yourself and try the cognitive thing of acting like you have no interest in him. 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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heylisten:  Uh, bullying? Really? None of the replies on here qualify as bullying.

I’d say the same thing to my best friend if they decided it’s ok to play with fire. 

 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Bullying? Yeah, not one person said anything that qualifies as bullying and no one called you a horrible person from what I saw. Everyone just gave you the unabashed truth and didn’t sugar coat it. You’re an adult. Get used to it.

Post # 21
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Helper bee

Online bullying because people said something you didn’t like but needed to hear? Just because the truth hurts doesn’t make it bullying.

Just like my dad used to say…. problems began when all kids started getting trophies.

 

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

ALL THESE WORK CRUSH THREADS HAVE ME SMH. MAKING ME NERVOUS NOT GONNA LIE!!!

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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Speck_:  this.

OP, if u want validation go elsewhere, clearly a weddingBee forum is not Going to validate that UR behavior is appropriate and okay. U asked for advice, people gave it. now u call it bullying? Ridiculous. 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I think it is normal to get crushes, but the behavior in the office is inappropriate. Tell people to stop with the jokes and if you are attracted to this guy, you probably shouldn’t be developing a close friendship with him.  How would you feel if your Fiance was doing the same thing with a girl he worked with? I think you might not approve.

Also – don’t hate on the Bees posting tuff love on here. They aren’t bullies for telling you directly what they think. You asked in an open forum for their opinion.

Post # 25
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Honey bee

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heylisten:  I haven’t read all of the responses, but my question to you is: if the tables were turned and your Fiance had a work crush, how would you feel? Especially if he “didn’t want to end the relationship” because he wanted to “nurture the friendship?”

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