I also have an Arch Nemesis as you put it.
My Little Miss Nutso was a fling my Fiance had after we had a huge fight and broke up to get some distance, they were dating for about 5 weeks. She is a psycho freak, and I don’t think her drug habit helps that much. (seriously)
She tried to manipulate him by saying that if he ever left her she would throw herself and her 7 year old son in front of a bus and kill them both. My Fiance currently has 2 jobs, one of them is as a the resident DJ at the local Pub, where he has been for almost 10 years. Well when she was with him she attacked 3 girls with Pool Ques at the Pub because she thought they were chatting him up when they were making requests. She was barred for 3 months, the pub didnt get the police involved as a favour to him.
She used to follow me around in her car and watch me, and I used to run a mobile dog grooming business and she would circle the block watching me as I was working at a Clients House.
After they broke up she told him that she was pregnant, then 2 days later she told him that she miss carried and couldnt survive without him.
Several months after they broke up, I was pregnant and moved in to live with him and she walked into the house (which I used to always leave the door open as the neighbour would come and go as he pleased, but not anymore, now its always locked), anyway she walked in uninvited demanding to see him and she started yelling at me. I retreated to my room to get my car keys to get out of there and she followed me and had me cornered and told me that I had ruined her life and stolden her best friend. She screamed that she “knew” people and was going to have me and the baby killed, and then she would laugh becuase he would hate me for it. After I got out of the house and locked it, she followed me in her car and then dissapeared. She doubled back and broke a window to get back into the house. Not exactly the encounter I needed when I was 7 months pregnant…..I went to the police about that incident, but there was no prood as I had been the only one hiome and none of the neighbours witnessed it either. The next day she rang him and told him she was in hospital and had tried to overdose herself because of the way I had spoken to her. I was there for that phone conversation, he was like well I don’t care, what about my window in my house. her excuse….she thought she had left her phone in the lounge room…….yeah right
After our child was born she kept contacting him to talk about her new boyfriend, and to say how sorry she felt for him that he had no family close by….(excuse me what about me and his child???) Then she arranged for him to have christmas day at her Mums house and rang him and told him she had arranged it and he had to turn up as her mum had bought food for him, she wouldnt be there was she was having christmas with her new boyrfirend, but she couldnt bare the thought of him being alone……again…..umm excuse me what about me and his daughter???? needless to say, he didnt go there for christmas.
And now she is on facebook leaving him cutsey lovey dovey messages. I hate it, I can’t stand it. I feel she has no right to talk to him about our child after the way she acted. I have told him how I felt, and while he doesnt seek contact out with her he wont block her on Facebook because he says thats not his thing, he doesnt cut people off like that.
Apparently she recently moved from the local area, so its a relief not having to worry about walking into her at the supermarket. Facebook is bad enough!!
So I totally understand where you are coming from. Why do these Exs have to pop up that just can’t let go, and can’t get their own life. I have Ex’s and I can’t say that I have ever stalked them in that manner. There is definantly some crazy out there in this world.