- Miss Kimberjen
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
To quote & agree with another bride’s article I read tonight on this topic……If you had asked me even six weeks ago, I would have told you that women who buy two or more dresses to wear to their wedding (aside from those with cultural reasons for doing so or just a very large budget) are wasteful and greedy. Well now I am a big, fat, greedy, wasteful, and hypocritical bride.
After I started planning and working out all the venue details I started thinking that my dress may not make it through. It is made from somewhat delicate lace overlay style with tons of bead work hand sewn onto the dress. Add to that the fact that our reception is in a fire hall with barbecue as the main menu I have some serious concerns that it will not make it through the night intact. So I found a second dress after seeing it at a bridal show & falling in love with it on the runway.
A little bit of history on me; I fell in love with a dress when my sister was getting married in 2000. One day while looking at a bridal magazine for ideas on her quick and short planned wedding I found this photograph of a dress that I adored. I tore the picture out & kept it safely tucked away until that one special day that I would get married. At the time I was dating my high school sweetheart and going away to the Coast Guard after graduation so I had no dreams or illusions of Marriage anytime soon but someday. Well that sweetheart and I did not last but I did meet & fall in love with a wonderful man that I was in the service with. Right after we had gotten engaged in 2001 after a quick whirl winded romance I started to track down this dress. I or should I say "WE" looked everywhere for this dress. I searched online, through bridal store sites, google, msn search, you name it I tried it. My sister even joined in the hunt for this dress; she called all the places listed on the ad I had torn out and searched around online as well. I was living half way cross the country from her which of course is where the one bridal store was that still carried this dress. I also found out that it was not an off the shelf dress but one from a designer only made for your measurements. So I would have to go there to even attempt at getting the dress. That for me simply was not an option due to my military obligations….so with a sad heart I began hunting similar styles through hundreds of images, sites & magazines.
I made an appointment at a semi-elite and very large bridal store in Sacramento. When I first walked in I told the nice young woman my story of "the dress" she listened intently and by the end was a little sad for me. I told her not to worry that I had come prepared with a list of over 50 dresses that were all very similar and what I believed to be their style codes so she could run to the back to get them. I was stunned and very sad again when she told me that the style codes I spent hours collecting were for the internet only and that she could not help me by using those. She did ask me if I had the photograph with me of "the dress" which I did. She took one look at this photo and said to me We have this dress……my jaw fell wide open in shock! After all that I had been searching and the heartache of this dress not being available low and behold they had "the dress." I was amazed to say the least. Well when she asked me if I wanted to try it on my reaction was of course a "YES." I was overjoyed and giddy that the first store I had gone into had "the dress….my dress." I tried it on and even more to my amazement the dress was almost my exact size but to another amazement above and beyond out of my budget. I tried on a dozen other dresses after that one but none of them even came close. I decided that though I did not know how I would begin to pay for this dress it was meant to be so I made the down payment for it to be ordered and made just for me by the designer.
Well that was almost 7 years ago now and thought I still love "the dress" I am very worried that it will not hold up with our large 150+ guest list wedding where the reception is at a Fire Hall. You see I never wore the dress back then, though I did get married. It was a short marriage and I almost got rid of "the dress" several times but simply couldn’t because I knew that I had to keep it for the day when I would meet the man I will stay with the rest of my life. I am now planning the actual big wedding that neither my sister nor I got to have first time around. None of my family was even able to be at the first ceremony; which was held at Lake Tahoe and my sister has since passed away tragically from a drunk driver hitting us. I walked away from that accident to survive for us both and have my second shot that she will never get which is why "the dress" is so special to me as she helped in my venture of finding those years ago.
Though I do know that it’s a little wasteful and I do love "the dress" I stopped into a bridal store today and tried on the dress from the runway. This dress too was in my size, much more flattering since I have the "hour-glass" shape and tons of body image issues like many other young women. It is a charmeuse dress with a halter neckline and low back. This dress is what I would have hands down selected if I went to get a dress to begin with. This dress is much more reflective of my taste and style now after but I simply can not part with the first. So after some thinking and anguish over it all I have decided to become a two-dress bride. I love the first dress and it means so very much to me which I hope if ever I have a little girl she might want to wear it but the second dress just makes me feel so beautiful, like one of those classic movie stars. Now I am just biting my tongue from my family in hopes that when they find out on the wedding day itself they won’t be too terribly upset……so wish me luck.