(Closed) I have commitment issues…

posted 5 years ago in Travel
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

All. The. Time.

The city I live in is great for now, it’s a good place to make a ton of money and job security is amazing here. But, I kinda don’t love it. I know I will never be content living here for the rest of my life and so I’m always scoping out where I want my “forever” to be. And, every time I visit somewhere I think that could be it… then over time I think of why it wouldn’t work. I wish I could just make a decision!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

same here….so i joined the military…well, that’s not the only reason i joined but you get it Tongue Out

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Who says you need to commit?  From the time I was 18, I moved from NY to Chicago, to Atlanta, to NC and now I’m in Wisconsin.  I’d live in Atlanta again in a heartbeat, NY if we both had income increases appropriate to the area. 

Personally, I say move.  You don’t really know a city till you live there for a year or two anyway.  If you like it and want to stay, cool!  If not, keep moving.  Madison isn’t my forever home, but it’s working for right now. 

I picked up and moved to Atlanta with nothing but the cat, all my stuff that fit in the Civic and $2k.  No place to live, no job lined up, nada.  Best adventure of my life!  I honestly believe we don’t die regretting the crazy things we did, instead we regret the chances we DIDN’T take.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Chrysoberyl:  I envy you ๐Ÿ™‚ I moved and am dying to move back. While I love to travel, I couldn’t imagine not living near my family and friends.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Chrysoberyl:  Story of my life! Im afraid to buy a house, or even art for my apartment because ‘what if I move out of the country next year?’ haha

Deciding where to go is definitely the biggest issue…as Im pretty sure that I will never be fully satisfied living in Minnesota – lately, I’ve been wishing I was though! It would be so much easier!

My desire to move is more of a ‘live the simple life & work in orphanages’ kind of goal, as I am just not a fan of the American lifestyle…First World Problems. My husband is from Nicaragua, so that seems to be the obvious choice…but I am considering other islands/countries that have more of the crystal clear water/white sand vibe going on…suggestions? ๐Ÿ™‚

If Im being honest, there is still a small part of my brain that sees a beautiful house, white picket fence, a dog and a minivan – and wants that too! I feel like I should probably choose a certain goal to work toward, but UGH, how to choose? Does anyone else picture their future in two worlds?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve always felt this way. I’ve lived in my current town for almost four years and it’s the longest I’ve been in one place since high school or the longest I pictured myself being in one place. The plan was to live here for six months, then maybe work on a cruise ship, then go do something else. But I met Fiance. And stayed here.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Chrysoberyl:  I moved around a lot as a kid and love traveling… so I feel you. I just want to experience EVERYTHING! and what better way to do that then to live in a place for 5 years and then move on to the next! lol

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Chrysoberyl:  I’m in Augusta too!!!!!! I’m Canadian (grew up outside Toronto) and just moved here for work. My work isn’t that ‘moveable’ so I don’t know how many more times I will move but I totally get where you are coming from. Moving from Canada to the deep south has been soooo interesting. The things that you are think are going to be the BIG differences don’t really affect you – it’s the little things and it is so much fun comparing and learning about my new home!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@luluvohn:  I worked on a Cruise Ship for almost a year – that’s where I met my husband! ๐Ÿ™‚

…I think that has something to do with why I feel so bored stuck in one place now – after spending months waking up in different countries/islands – it’s hard to go back to real life…

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Totally. I’m 22 and have moved 23 times, including soon to be 6 states. (Not a military brat either!). My husband has moved way more than me, but his family was military and so was he. We both are kind of ‘fly by the seat of your pants’ type of people, so who knows where that will take us lol

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