Post # 46
Ouch, sorry to hear that OP. That’s rough with a little one. I hope you all start feeling better. Are you able to get tested?
As for the childcare situation, it’s a tough call either way. No one should feel guilty about the choices they make out of necessity. My husband and I are working full time while parenting a 1yr old and a preschooler, and it is absolutely brutal but can’t be helped. Let’s just say I’m not the most productive at work. It’s a crazy time, and I figure I’m okay not being a high performer when we are also handling 100% of the childcare. Thankfully my company gets it. Most of our friends with nannies have suspended their nanny services for the time being. I’m in the Bay Area where the government and companies are largely agreed that this something to be taken very seriously, and productivity is secondary. If I had a nanny, I’d have suspended her services, but that’s because I have the luxury of working at a company that is supportive, in a state that responded early. I hear from family in the NY/NJ area that things are very different there, that full productivity is demanded at their work places. So with that kind of pressure, my risk calculus would absolutely change. Also with the infection rate as high as it is in NY, having a nanny isn’t even the weakest link. It could be riding the elevator to get groceries or baby supplies.
Post # 47
this was why my day was so bad. It’s just me with my four year old and I’m trying to work at the same time and have her do her assignments from her teacher. Luckily she’s only in prek but it’s a battle to get her to do anything.
She’s having a hard time, having melt downs and I’m trying to focus on being a full time employee while trying to be patient and understanding and STILL having boundaries by showing her that her behavior is unacceptable.
It’s brutal. It was easier when my husband had his hours cut even though his paycheck was cut. Having him back at work full time is amazing given what’s going on, and he’s back to a full paycheck (he still has yet to see anything from unemployment even though he filed in March) but it’s another added layer of stress for childcare AND working AND trying to be patient and validating with my four year old without losing my mind
A lot of people are calling this homeschooling. It’s not. Homeschooling is a full time job and I wouldn’t even pretend that I’m touching on what homeschool parents do on a daily basis
Add being 33 weeks pregnant on top of that and it’s just so hard
We are so incredibly lucky but it’s still damn hard
Post # 48
oh and about full productivity, my higher ups had to practically sign an oath in blood that operations wouldn’t be affected in the slightest by a transition to work from home.
It was seen as a priveledge and we were told (and were just reminded recently) that if productivity slips, we lose the ability to work from home
And two of us are heavily pregnant
Post # 49
That’s so hard. And 33 weeks pregnant in the midst of all of this. Hugs!! It sucks that companies are being so shortsighted. 🙁
Yeah, my 5 year old is constantly shushed and ignored, while we struggle to work. Baths are optional most days. Lunchtime is determined by our meeting schedules. We aren’t winning any parenting awards. But that’s okay. The kids will be fine. It’s what I keep telling myself.
Post # 50
I unfortunately do not work for a very supportive company. They cut the salaries of employees that they deemed under performers or people with low hours and cut mine, but claimed that they didn’t take into account my maternity leave when deeming that my hours were low. Funny thing is that they gave me a raise a few months before my salary was cut, so I don’t know how they can say I’m an under performer while giving me a raise. After that, I felt like I needed to work harder so I don’t get fired.
I emailed my boss that my nanny and baby both have covid symptoms and we’re self quarantining for at least 2 weeks and got no response at all. Frankly, my job security is very questionable, given the current situation. I try not to focus on that and focus on my family and our health instead. It’s pretty stressful.
Post # 51
I would like to know where in ZZAR’s response she was bein respectful to the OP when she smugly kicked her when she was down by saying well maybe next time you will learn to social distance. The OP is already sick with COVID so what’s the point of bringing up what she thought should have been done after the damage is done. Just to rub her face in it? Id you are going to talk about respect here well ZZAR’s comment certainly wasn’t demonstrating respect. But of course there is always that one poster….
Post # 52
Oh yikes. That’s so ridiculous. It’s awful that a new mom is made to feel so insecure about her hours. That’s corporate America for you. 🙁
Good call on focusing on health and family. Can you go on disability leave? It may not be the most ideal move career wise at least in the short term, but it will take some pressure of you. You don’t need the added stress while you’re recovering. Longer term, I’m sure you’ll be looking to switch companies..
Hang in there, mama!
Post # 53
In eastern medicine, ginseng is known to help the immune system. The concentrated stuff is pricy and tastes like acid mud, but maybe it will help scare the bug off. Feel better!
Post # 54
OP I feel bad this thread has negativity in it. I feel so bad for you and your baby and your nanny! We are here to support you! I want you to feel supported. This is a weird time and full of high amounts of stress. Let’s be supportive Bees to our fellow Bee who is home with her baby with a scary diagnosis. I’m not one for drama in stressful, scary situations. I understand we all have our own opinions but right now she needs our support and good vibes!💕
Post # 55
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Keep this thread on track or I will close.
Post # 56
I really, really hope you feel better soon and can hold and cuddle your baby again soon. Sending hugs and good vibes to you. Take care and get lots of rest.
Post # 57
I’m sorry you have to go through this. The virus is so prevalent in New York, you could have easily caught it no matter how careful you are, so don’t let others make you feel bad. Has your nanny tested positive as well? It’s possible you didn’t even catch it from her.
Post # 58
sending positive thoughts your way. I hope you feel better soon.
Post # 59
private nannies were one of the first things to get cancelled here, so I can see why people think it was irresponsible – greatly depends on your area. This would have been highly illegal where I am, and people definitely wouldn’t be surprised/shocked at someone getting it from their nanny.
Post # 60
Bee, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Scary sickness, job stress, separated from baby…. I hope you recover quickly. Take vitamins. Especially C and D. And believe it or not, the old stand by, chicken soup, is the best thing for the immune system. That and bright berry antioxidants:. Blackberries, blueberries, strawberries. Etc. Nature’s best medicine. Feel better!