Post # 61
I hope none of the shamers end up needing health care during this pandemic, if they think continuing to provide childcare for our children is a breech of protocol.
Are you suggesting that we should leave our children unattended while we go to work to care for you and yours?
On the other hand , those of us frontline workers with children would probably be more than happy to stay home and care for our own children. Hopefully there are enough childfree health-care workers where you live to provide the care you need. Good luck with that.
Post # 62
Some of the condescending comments made me think of a quote that really struck me by the character Mia in the Little Fires Everywhere miniseries. “You didn’t make good choices, you HAD good choices!”
It’s easy to make a good choice when you’re privileged enough to have good options.
Post # 63
Yes, I agree…I literally just finished that series today!
Post # 64
not to freak you out, but to make you aware, a lot of children are having a post-Covid inflammatory reaponse similar to Kawasaki Syndrome. So please make sure your husband is aware and keeping an eye out while you recover.
Post # 65
A few years ago I worked for families as a nanny while I was still getting settled in Norway. As soon as things started closing I got texts from 3 (!) different families asking for help again even though I don’t really do it anymore.
I chose to help the family that lives closest to me, and I’ve been helping twice a week, taking my bike or getting a ride from FH. I’ve practiced social distancing, and not been in a groups of more than 5.
When the parents and I discussed things, they said the most important thing is that we’re keeping our circles small and consistent, so that even if someone was sick, then you could easily inform and know who could have contracted it. I don’t see anything wrong with how you’ve handled your personal situation of keeping on your nanny, as I’m sure you’ve had the same conversations.
Bee, you’re experiencing the worst of the worst right now with job uncertainty, a sick baby and yourself, and now quarantine. I’m so sorry you’re all going through this, it’s good to know your husband has been a great care taker for you guys. Get well! ❤️
Post # 66
sending lots of positive healing thoughts!
Post # 67
Holy judgement, Batman.
I’m still utilizing personal childcare because both my husband and I are in lesser recognized essential fields. Something we discovered is that a lot of the child care that is open for essential workers filled up quickly and we were told they were giving the spots to doctors and nurses first.
What are we supposed to do? We definitely don’t have the luxury to just stop working. My mother in law tries to guilt us constantly about this and hounds us about why we can’t ust “stop working” to protect our son. I’m SO not here for her crap right now.
I’m thinking of you Bee. I wish a speedy recovery and as a mama to a little one, I understand how terrified you are.
Post # 68
just to clarify because I was just researching this – it’s not that a LOT of children have had bad reactions as a result of Covid19. 64 kids in NY have been hospitalized for it, and nearly 3 million New Yorkers have had Covid19.
It’s newsworthy because it’s newly described and inconsistent with the previous idea that children were more or less immune or barely affected by Covid19. I absolutely agrew with you that anyone who knows they or their kids has it, should watch for warning signs in the young kids (high fever, gastro distress, abdominal pain, cardiac symptoms, etc).
OP – I hope you feel better soon! Thank you for your hard work, and please ignore the people who are lame enough that being mean to strangers on WB is apparently the highlight of their day.
Post # 69
Op – I had covid like symptoms back in March (they aren’t testing you unless you’re in hospital so I can’t say for certain that it was covid)
mots rough and it knocked me for six. I had 2 waves of illness too. I had the first wave with fever, coughing the breathlessness and then about a week after that got better I got a 48hr headache and loss of taste and smell.
im a full time mum so apart from 2 days when I was in bed, I was on duty with the kids. It’s rough so take your time to get better.
i hope your work come around. I honestly can’t believe some places are being like that.
Post # 70
my husband is in car repairs and our state deemed repair shops essential. It surprised me but we are happy that he’s being paid. Unemployment has been a disaster in my area, I can’t imagine being without his paycheck and waiting for the money to start coming in
People would be surprised at what companies have been deemed essential.
If he refused to work, he wouldn’t qualify for unemployment and we would be down an income with a four year old and another baby on the way
I have enough guilt about taking my four year old to grandmas when we both have to be out of the house for work or my ob appts, so I’m not for any of the judgment either.
Post # 71
Really, private nannies were canceled across the board, for everyone? Including essential workers? Call me skeptical.
But even if it’s true in your area, why the kneejerk reaction to assume the worst about the OP? Why the urge to kick someone who’s already down by leaping to judgment when you don’t know the facts?
Post # 72
yep. Strict restrictions on what day homes/day cares could stay open, but I still think even as we discuss reopening that nannies are still banned. They are being extra cautious with anything child related since they can be asymptomatic. In one province over one kid returning from a Florida vacation got a huge office daycare shut down bc his parents didn’t quarantine for 14 days returning.
they did start to make exceptions for essential workers more recently, but not for nannies still.
Post # 73
Shoot, I wish I could stay home with my toddler all day. But alas I work in a hospital and have been onsite through this whole thing.
OP, I’m sorry for everything going wrong. I can imagine how you feel as I worry 24 hours a day I’m going to bring something home from work and give it to my kid or to one of her grandparents (the people who watch her while I’m here working). I hope you both start feeling better soon and for sure have your husband watch your kiddo for the secondary illness that’s starting to present in kids.
Post # 74
That just seems crazy to me. What are parents who work in essential roles and have private nannies for childcare supposed to do? Are they supposed to start using a dayhome instead? That seems a lot riskier than a private nanny in terms of the chances of spreading covid.
Post # 75
my husband works in automotive too. He’s annoyed that they’re open, but he completely understands why. He said they just wait around all day for a car to come in. But he’s in the same boat, since they’re open he would not be able to collect unemployment if he chose to stop working.
it’s pretty telling that a few people have asked “What are we/they supposed to do?” And no one is answering that.