I have covid and it sucks

posted 2 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 106
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Helper bee

 

I. OP and her baby have confirmed COVID, can we be a little more compassionate and not gain up on her?

2. She wasn’t being irresponsible by having her nanny still working for her. 

In New York, nannies, newborn caregivers, newborn care specialists, home attendants, caregivers, HHA’s, CNA’s, PCA’s etc.. are all considered essential workers. 
 

In the US, every. state except two have a policy in place that says household child caregivers are essential. The difference state to state is that if care applies to anyone’s children or just the children of essential workers. The only 2 states that have nannies listed as non essential are Nevada and New Mexico. Unless you’re from those states but in America, stop blaming and bashing the OP. 

Post # 107
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Bee Keeper

Why are people being such horrific asshats on here?! OP ignore the haters some of us are worried about you, hope you are recovering well. Did you order the pulse oximeter? 

How are you now? 

Post # 108
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Rossino Castle

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@melearenee:  as I said, you can’t judge this by American standards. We actually know our neighbors pretty well here, even in bigger cities.Our housing density makes this the norm, so neighbors often are also friends, or at least close aquitances.

There was no other choice though, there still isn’t actually. What are they going to do, leave the kids home alone?Even now, children can’t be left with grandparents who don’t live with them. We can’t have any contact with anyone outside of people who live with us, or, since the last few days, our relatives, but while still keeping masks, gloves and one meter of distance between us. I saw my in laws last week, and we kept our distance and masks on while being inside our house. I’m seeing my father today, same thing, we will have to keep our distance.

The only other choice was not going to work. Most couples here aren’t both essential workers anyway. 

Post # 109
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Worker bee

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@Comealongpond:  

I’m guessing you’re in Italy from what you’ve said.

According to various online news sources, key workers in Italy are allowed to hire child care.

“The government has therefore announced specific support families who cannot work from home. The contribution is to pay for a babysitter if those workers are engaged in key roles such as healthcare or large food distributors or in the food industries etc.”

I don’t know if this differs by region within the country at all.

Post # 110
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Rossino Castle

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@oatmilk:  not here, at least that we know of. I’m in Milano, and while as I said before, none of our friends with kids were in the situation were both spouses were essential workers, we heard from them that many of their colleagues left their kids with next door neighbors or their partner who was working from home.

I guess it’s better to leave your kids with people you know,and you know are following the rules, than a babysitter you might or might not know and who might not be following the rules as strictly.

Aside from a small percentage of people who didn’t, and still aren’t, take it seriously, everyone else here followed the rules very carefully, so I see why it feels safer to know your children are with someone you know first hand is not going out daily without reason or is not paying attention to hygienic protocol.

My own coworker (we work in a chain store) is probably going to take hours of paid leave once we get back to work because schools won’t reopen until September probably and her husband works from home, so he will need at least a few days a week free to work full time.

 

Post # 111
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Busy bee

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@melearenee:  yes in the states it would be crazy because idk who my neighbors are. In some other countries not so much, my mom left me with our neighbor multiple times while I was growing up. 

Post # 113
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

where do y’all find these so called neighbors where you can just drop your kids off and peace out, cause i need to get me some of those… 

Post # 114
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Busy bee

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@breatheandrelax:  Glad to hear that you are recovering! Happy Mother’s Day!!

Post # 115
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Helper bee

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@Kslim13:  In our old building, all our neighbors were friends and family. Friends of mine with kids lived around the corner. Friends who my fiancé grew up with lived across the street and down the block. I babysat one of their sons all the time when he was a baby and toddler when the parents worked. They didn’t always call– but I knew they’re schedule and if anyone needed anything they just knocked. (Our whole block was like this– and everyone knew everyone). And before Covid and moving upstate– our friends would come over all the time. We would see each other in passing outside walking to the store, and before you know it everyone’s together and over for dinner. Sometimes the would just stop in to drop off something from a bakery or say hi. Vice versa and it was great!! A lady on the first floor lived in our building for 50+ years and took care of my fiancé and his brother when they were babies. She’s like a second mom to him. (NYC) So it’s not unheard of to be very close to neighbors who are like family and have them babysit.  I was that sitter for years. 

Post # 116
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Helper bee

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@breatheandrelax:  I’m so glad your starting to feel better!! I heard it comes in waves from mild to horrible. A friend of mine described the worst of it in a way where she “could feel her soul peeling away from her body,” and understood how people can let go and pass. This was terrifying to me– then hours later she was up and able call me and take a shower etc.. feeling a lot better. So crazy!! 

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