(Closed) I have determined women never grow out of being catty middle school girls. vent.

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

just wanted to say hang in there! ppl acting like middle school girls I think have a lot of demons in their own head! So don’t sweat them, because the mentality they’re caught up in is its own punishment!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That is exactly why I do not have many female friends. It’s safer to play in a pit of poisonous snakes….:).

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Glenda_the_good_witch:  I don’t even know what to say to this ridiculous comment. 

 

OP it sounds like you just got a bad bunch. Hang in there, there are so many amazing women in the world, don’t let these ones disappoint you. I personally know many 😉 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Can you not read? It means lots of friendships with women are poisonous. But thanks for the rude comment and snarkiness. Have a great day!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Case in point. Haha!

 

OP, sorry you work with sour apples. I’m the opposite and work mostly with men who think they are superior because of that fact alone. Can’t win either way!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@chasesgirl:  I’m a night shift nurse too and I know how you feel. Most of the women I work with are super catty and it gets old really fast.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Every female friends I’ve ever had was a nutcase – except for 1. So out of probably 20 girls I’ve been really close with have been insane.

This is why I don’t keep female friends.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@FauxBoho:  

 

OP it sounds like you just got a bad bunch.

ITA with this.

In my previous career I was surrounded by a wonderful group of women who were intelligent, supportive, fun and inspiring. Just a really, all-around fantastic group of people who happened to mostly be women. My boss was a woman, and she had my back. She taught me so much and helped me enormously.

 

The group I’m working with now? Yikes! Talk about swimming with sharks — gossipy, hormonal, whacko, shrill, easily upset, back-stabbing, petty, judgmental, meddling, not that smart… I could go on. If I didn’t have Darling Husband to come home to, I would throw myself out the window.
 
So yes, I feel your pain, OP, but I hope you eventually have the opportunity to work with a really wonderful group of women, as I once did. (sigh)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m not sure where you ladies hang out but all my girlfriends over the years have been amazing. Obviously there are some arseholes out there but they can be men too. You have to learn to avoid these people. Not all women are catty or nutcases and if you think they are then you should have a look at the common link in your problem. You.

 

Nothing annoys me more than women that say all women are crazy/bitchy/catty etc. It’s just not true. 

 

It can be difficult to avoid these types at work as you can’t always choose who you work with but you can certainly choose who you hang out with. 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@FauxBoho:  agreed! where I work it’s mostly men and you wouldn’t believe how catty some of them can be. the most manipulative, drama-filled person I’ve ever met is a guy. just people in general can be bitchy, though I’ve met plenty of great guys AND gals.

sorry about your situation, the best you can do is keep your distance, don’t stoop down to their level.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

@FauxBoho:  Absolutely. If a woman can’t keep a good female friend, well…. that says something about her, not every other woman on the planet.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

well that’s a broad over generalization. Labeling ALL women like that does nothing to support your fellow women, except make it okay for men to label us that way. Nothing is more degrading than a man (or woman) calling someone crazy or a bitch just because they have a vagina.  It sucks you don’t like the women you work with, but classifying all women like that isn’t cool either. That goes for everyone talking about why they don’t have female friends.  No offense to those without female friends because they’re all “nuts” or “bitches”, but if you think every female you come across is crazy, then maybe the problem is not them, it’s you.  Time for some self reflection, ladies.

 

 

 

As for advice how to deal with this bad bunch – try and just keep your interactions professional so as to not get caught up in the gossip and drama. 

 

 

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@chasesgirl:  Agreed. Some women will never outgrow the petty, snarky attitude they had in highschool. Very frustrating!

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