Post # 1
I was 245 pounds back in February of 2011. I lost 65 pounds, and got engaged! WOO! (note: I know I didn’t get engaged due to the weight loss, lol – I’m not blaming any woe’s on my FI)
Well, after our engagement I started college again (I’m 27), picked up a 2nd job, have been planning a wedding, and my family life (mom and sibs – not FI) has gone haywire and it extremely stressful and it resulted in me playing peacemaker between 7 people – awesome.
Anyhow, I can’t blame it on that but nonetheless, I’ve packed on 35 lbs again from what I had lost.
I am feeling so depressed and disgusted with myself. I’m terrified my dress isn’t going to fit (it was snug at the fitting when I picked it up and I’ve put on about 10lbs since then). I bought it at david’s bridal so it’s not like I go back for a lot of fittings, so it just kind of is what it is.
I completely lack any motiviation and my wedding is in 3 months. I don’t even know if I can get back down to my original weight in 3 months.
I know theres nothing anyone on the bee can do but I just needed to vent I guess. My family has so much going on and are all wrapped up in their own problems that I feel like I can’t talk about the wedding much less complain about my fears of being gross and not fitting in my dress.
Post # 3
Are you an emotional eater? You can lose the weight again without having time for the gym as long as you watch your nutritional intake. My SO lost over seventy pounds by cutting out carbs and lowering his portion sizes. Now that he is at a normal weight is when he has finally agreed to come with me to they gym lol.
Also I know how you feel when you gain weight and you feel disgusted with yourself. There are some important things you need to remind yourself. Firstly you are still down a LOT from where you were before. It’s a back slide but you’re still making progress. Secondly you are not disgusting. I’ve found that I feel fat and look fat to me at the same time others don’t see me as fat at all. I’ve had a fat day where three girls told me they wish they had my body. We are our own worst critic.
Most importantly, use this feeling of disgust to fuel yourself to give you the will power to get better. When I feel fat and I stop for fast food and I really want a milk shake I just grab a little bit of where I think I’m fat and remind myself that it is the milk shake AND the fat or no milk shake and no fat.
Don’t be down on yourself. You’ve come a long way. You’re still on the right track, you’re just temporarily stuck at a station, is all.
Post # 4
Oh and there are some things you can do that will kick start you. It’s not permanent weight loss but it can serve as enough of a boost to motivate you. Take this for example:
It will not get rid of your fat or anything but when you are going through a stagnant phase and you finally get back on the wagon, it can be a really big ego boost.
Post # 5
I saw this photo online the other day, and it struck me as very comforting:
As PP said, watch what you’re eating over the next three months and you should be able to knock off the 10+lbs that you might need to make your dress fit. Since you’re on the go constantly, keep fruits and veggies on hand for snacks. Go without the refined/white carbs and stick to whole grains. Don’t add sugar to anything (add fruit instead), and watch your salt intake. Steer clear of oil when possible, and the weight will come off. Every food choice you make is a chance to get back on track, so start now.
Post # 6
thanks girls – I already feel a little less hopeless 🙂
Post # 7
I got married at the end of apirl, I had lost 30 lbs for the wedding, I have gained most of it back since the honeymoon….. oh my… I feel you.. I need some modivation
Post # 8
I’ve also put some weight back on recently. The good news is that I know once I start eating better and exercising, I will start to feel better about myself, even if the scale isn’t moving. As far as the dress goes, it looks like you have about 3 months. That should be plenty of time to lose the 10 pounds you put on since your last fitting, and even some extra.
Best of luck to you!
Post # 9
Have you considered Weight Watchers? Not the online version alone, but the meetings. They really are supportive and provide the accountability that can really help. They provide tools to teach you the right portions, the right foods and still allow room for fun.
If you had a broken foot you would see a doctor. If your car was broken you would go to a mecanic, so why not get help if you are having trouble with your weight? If it were so easy we would all be able to do it on our own. But many of us go up and down because it isnt easy to do it on our own.
It is hard to lose a fair amount of weight and it will be hard to maintain it. But overtime when you learn the right habits and have the right tools, that I do believe Weight Watchers can give you, it will get easier.
Post # 10
Losing the weight to get your dress to fit is very possible! I’m within the healthy range and I lost 5 pounds within a month as my doctor recommended losing some weight due to health issues. When you’re further away from your ideal weight, it should be easier to lose it and you have 3 months!
You have a Fiance to support you now. When you do have some free time, spend it with him doing an activity you both enjoy. Get some quick to grab healthy food in your home so when you are busy, you can just grab and go. I find yogurt, baby carrots and rinse and eat fruit (berries, apples, plums, nectarines).
You’ve lost weight already – and have kept some of it off. You can do it again!
Post # 11
I’ve no idea how much weight I’ve gained since I got married in April but I feel huge at the moment. I think I’m not far off the size I was when I was at my largest a few years ago.
Post # 12
When my fiancé was focused on losing body fat, he said one of he most effective things was cardio first thin in the morning, and then a healthy breakfast after that. I’ve also heard diet is more important. Good luck to you!
Post # 13
I feel your pain…the past 6 years I have yo yo’d like crazy…I know what to do…but doing it is the block!
You can definitely lose 10-15 lbs in 3 months….try http://www.sparkpeople.com it is an amazing website and even has a smart phone app to help count calories!
WHat my PT says that I should eat a high good fat (so you WILL be over your daily fat intake), high protein, low carbs and no processed diet…..which is basically just healthy eating….
avocados, almonds, lean protein, vegetables, fruit, and a good protein shake mix can help….eggs, fish, beans and lentils are great additions…..
try meal planning, and pack everything in a cooler….this is my plan for when I’m back to work in september….I need to kick my ass….
strength training helps too because muscle takes up less space than fat, and it burns calories faster so when you’re sedentary it burns more calories than if you don’t strength train…..
Post # 14
oh and another thing:
abs are built in the kitchen
Post # 15
The hardest thing about losing weight is finding the formula that works for your body. Everybody’s body is different. The plus side is that you already know what works for you to lose weight 🙂 I hope you’re feeling better about it.