Post # 1
Ok ladies, I am not sure what to do about this situation I may soon be in.
Darling Husband and I are not TTC and sometimes use barriers but are not 100% “safe” as we plan on TTC in August as soon as I am finished weaning off an antidepressant I have been taking that I would rather not be on while preggo if I can help it.
The issue is at Xmas DH’s parents surprised us all with a family vacation…in November. Needless to say if I do get a BFP anytime soon I will NOT be going and neither will Darling Husband, as a result, the in laws are going to FLIP.
WTH do I do if I end up with a BFP?? Has anyone else been in the situation where they have had to cancel big plans because of a pregnancy? What did you do?
Post # 3
I mean, as long as you’re not high risk or having serious issues, why not go? A friend of mine who gave birth last weekend took a week long trip to Italy over Thanksgiving. I just flew home to the states for 4 weeks through the month of December (at 24 and 28 weeks pregnant).
There’s no reason you have to cancel plans just because you’re pregnant.
Post # 4
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Is there a reason you can’t travel while you are pregnant? I can understand in the late stages, but are you not meant to travel early on? Or are you more concerned with maintaining your leave from work for when the baby comes? If you are pregnant im sure that your in-laws will understand and surely thrilled at the prospect of a new grandchild!!
Post # 5
Regardless of your plans to build a family, your in laws have no right to make a family trip mandatory. Just don’t commit to it and back out once you find out you’re pregnant. Tell them now you don’t plan on going. I don’t see why they would flip out on you guys for not wanting to go on a trip?
Post # 6
I would love to go on vacation, but the policy with the cruise line is that infants 6 monts or less cannot sail. I guess it is due to no pediatric staff or might be r/t vaccinations babies need…IDK. I would happily go while preggers, but if I am pregnant NOW baby will be due in October. We are planning on putting a hold on the TTC and being very safe until we know we are safe to go on the trip pending any pregnancy emergencies of course. I also know some airlines will not let an expectant mother get on a place at a certain number of weeks! IDK if this is a Canadian thing or not, I don’t have alot of experience with flying. I told Darling Husband though if I have to get on a plane for 9hours while very pregnant he will be buying me a pre-baby present of first class lol…and possibly some sexy compression hose!
Post # 7
What kind of inlaws, would choose a vacation over the happiness of having a grandchild? Why do you think they would flip? Sorry, I don’t put my life on hold for anyone. A cruise isn’t a once in a lifetime sort of deal for me, sorry it isn’t.
Post # 8
@mrsjustinm2b: I’m sure if you get pregnant your in-laws won’t be upset if you are either near due or just gave birth and can’t go. If they are, I think there are bigger issues!
As a Canadian, I understand why you don’t want to travel that pregnant. No one wants to give birth in another country. I know that several airlines will not allow women who are within 4 weeks of their due date to travel unless you can present a really good case. Frankly, if I was that far along, I doubt I’d want to be sightseeing and walking like crazy anyways.
Personally, I wouldn’t plan my pregnancy plans around travel. Do what is best for you. Travel plans can easily be refunded if your IL’s are told well in advance.
Post # 9
I don’t really understand what the issue is? You say you aren’t TTC yet and don’t want to until August. You haven’t been very careful, but will be next cycle and up until August. So chances are pretty slim that you are right now, and I don’t think you should worry about it until you know for sure. If you get a positive test, then you’ll have to tell your ILs that you won’t be able to go. If not, it’s kind of a moot point.
Post # 10
PS. The limit for flying with most airlines is 36 weeks.
Post # 11
I had to cancel a once in a lifetime family trip to Ireland in March, because I’m due April 1. My whole family is going for a wedding and I’d LOVE to go as I’ve never been, but honestly, it’s not the end of the world and the fam totally understands. The chances of you getting pregnant right when you start to try are slim anyway, so I wouldn’t stress it unless/ until it becomes an issue. Also, as long as you’re not so far along you’re too uncomfortable to fly (3rd trimester) you can totally go! I went on a trip when I was 14 weeks and aside from some lingering morning sickness, I was fine.