(Closed) I have never been on vacation with my FI

posted 8 years ago in Travel
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I totally understand. We’ve been on a few small weekend trips (once to NYC, several times to his hometown near DC) and this year went with my family to Myrtle Beach. But that was with my family and only cost the two of us around 200 bucks. We can’t afford to go to Vegas or to Mexico or any of these really cool places. Hopefully in the future we will be able to (he’s just now finally working full time and starting to save money).

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Haha I know how you feel. I was feeling really annoyed about the same thing awhile back. My bf has taken about 5 vacations/trips (with his family) in the year or so we’ve been together, and I’ve only been on one real vacation my whole life. We just never had the money. I’m thinking of starting to save money so some girlfriends and I can possibly take a little trip next year, but our honeymoon will probably be our first actual vacation together.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We saved our butts off to go to Disney one year (and it took us 3 years to get the $1600 – and we drove there). But most of that is because both of us were really against getting married before taking a vacay together. It sounds strange, but there’s so much pressure, emotion, and stress in a vacation – we knew that if we could handle it, we could handle anything. That’s the only vacay we’ve taken in the last 5 years though. It just means that you prioritize your spending!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

@SweetRose2011:  I think a lot more people live on credit than they say they do especially a lot of college students.  I know several people that are continually flying, having lavish spring breaks, and they have several credit cards maxed out, taken out maximum in federal loans, and several private loans.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband and I haven’t been on a big trip since 2006 (which was financed by my dad as a hs graduation trip).  His grandmother did give us some money that we can use for some vacations coming up though, plus my husband is building up frequent flier miles from traveling so much for work!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Fiance and I have never been on a vacation together. He used to travel a lot for work so traveling for fun just wasn’t his thing. We can’t wait for the honeymoon it is going to be great! Happy days in Hawaii for two weeks.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We haven’t been able to afford many long trips at this point (there is a lot we are saving for), but we do try to take long weekends away, typically to places that don’t involve flying, every few months or so. I’d highly recommend finding places that you can drive within a few hours and booking a B&B for a weekend. It may not be a long trip, but it always helps us reconnect and relax with each other.

We also usually take a week long camping trip in the summer. We pick a National Park (but doesn’t need to be) and drive there and camp and explore. For the last two summers, we’ve ended our trips by doing wine tasting and staying at a B&B back in civilization…it’s a nice treat after a week in the woods!

Anyway, I’d highly recommend being flexible about the definition, both by length and by destination/mode of vacationing. If you look for places that are close or that are cheap to stay (i.e., camping), you’ll find that it’s not that hard to get away together. And in fact, my favorite vacations with my fiance have been our camping trips! They’re peaceful, we get lots of exercise, we get to see a new part of the world together…

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Vacations are a good tool on how you’ll deal with each other in stressful situations.  The first time we went to Europe together was way more stressful than any other time I had been there.  But it’s a great learning tool!  Everyone should try to do it, even if it’s closer to home.  

Vacations are important to refocus on what is important and have some down time.  It saddens me when I read that most American’s don’t take their full alloted vacation time.  It honestly doesn’t have to cost a lot.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we’ve taken a few ‘mini-vacays'(maine, vermont, NYC, vegas) together. they’ve all been for no more than 4 days and were within driving distance(exept for vegas…but he won a $400 giftcard for a travel agency from work). this way we feel like we are getting away together and away from everything, but aren’t breaking the bank either.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

It saddens me when I read that most American’s don’t take their full alloted vacation time.  It honestly doesn’t have to cost a lot.

I totally agree. Shoot, if I have to have a staycation, I will. We have only been on weekend trips together so far since he has to work so much, but I do go to the Caribbean with my sister each year. It doesn’t cost a lot on a cruise ship.Now AIs are a different story, unless you like Mexico, which is a cheap place to go for an AI. But, really..once there was enough for me.Undecided 

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

like some of you, other than a couple of three day weekends (once to Pittsburgh to visit family and once to Chicago for his cousin’s wedding) we’ve never been anywhere.  I got to visit in him San Diego before he deployed to Iraq so MAYBE that counts, though it certainly wasn’t fun or relaxing!

We’re planning on going to Europe for a little bit when he come back from Afghanistan but nothing other than that.  That would be in 2012.  Yeah. 

What bothers be more is that I have not had time off work other than a day here and there – no more than one day at a time – so that I could earn enough leave to carry over the maximim for any future maternity leave needs (I’m a federal employee…we have no maternity leave – not even short term disability).  So at the end of this year, I’ll have my 30 days saved up and will be able to take more leave next year.  I want to take a week off for the wedding- looking forward to that more than the wedding!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@beekiss2: I have to agree with this. When I look at other people my age and wonder how they afford things/trips/cars/houses/fancy apartments/eating out/new clothes I always remember that the difference between them and me is plastic, which I refuse to use.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I just had a conversation with someone last night about how excited I am to go on our honeymoon because we have never been on a vacation together. I think thats kind of cool, it makes it even more special

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