Post # 1
…not exactly. My maid of honor is my fiance’s sister. She’s awesome and we get along great, so I am totally fine with having her and only her as a bridesmaid. But my fiance just told me that he wants to add 2 more groomsmen (we had previously agreed on 1 maid and 1 groomsman.)
Anyway, I don’t feel ‘close enough’ with any girl to have them as my bridesmaid. All my friends from high school are already married with children and they are all insanely busy. My college friends are equally busy and spread all over the place and I would feel awkward asking them, as I don’t foresee them asking me to be a bridesmaid in their wedding. My cousins are all young and distant. I have nobody. What should I do?
Post # 3
stick with just the Maid/Matron of Honor. evenness doesn’t matter. personally, i would hate to be added to a wedding party just because the groom added a couple guys.
Post # 4
If you’re happy with just one, that’s fine! You don’t have to have equal numbers.
Post # 5
Do the groomsmen have wives/girlfriends that ould stand in as maids? It would likely make them happy since they would get to be paired up with their spouse/s.o.
Post # 6
I agree with @Beluga, you don’t need an equal number. I wanted only one, but my FH wanted 4, we settled on 2 and now he wants 3. I told him to go for it, but at the end of the day all that matters is my sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor. Don’t feel pressured to have equal numbers!
Post # 7
I wasn’t really close to many girlfriends when I got married. I had my cousin as Maid/Matron of Honor, and I have 3 brothers, and he has 1 brother. Our wedding party ended up being 1Maid/Matron of Honor, 1Best Man-his brother, and my three brothers would have all been groomsmen, but I didn’t want to ask my SIL to be a bm, because I thought if I had anyone be bridesmaids it should be all 3 of his sisters-that I didn’t know well-so I had one Maid/Matron of Honor, and he ended up with 1 Best Man and two Groomsmen, and my other brother (married SIL months ahead of us) ended up doing a reading instead of being a 3rd Groomsmen. It was fine. I missed out on Bridesmaid or Best Man drama! and I don’t have anyone in wedding photos that I regret having in them!! It will be FINE!! 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
First off, if you want to ask someone to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, do so. Don’t worry if they’re too busy. It’s truely an honor to be asked. Give them the chance to say “no”. Other than that, you could have the other guys be ushers. You could just have 1 lady and 3 guys. Or have maid of honor and one gm stand on your side, and the other 2 guys stand on FIs side.
Post # 9
Well…its OK to have different numbers. I have just a couple bridesmaids, and Fiance probably will stand by himself. You spend a lot of time with a bridesmaid, might as well make sure she is someone you like to hang out with.
Post # 10
First, don’t worry about the even number thing. A friend of mine who had lots of bms but her hubby didn’t have as many gm just clustered them in groups of two and three up the choir loft of the church instead of having them all in a line and whatnot. I actually really liked the set up.
Second, definitely ask if there is someone you’d like to include. My best friend lives in Austria, and I definitely wanted her to be in the wedding so I asked her, even though I knew she might not be able to make it. Ultimately she told me no, but she also told me how much she appreciated me asking anyway. She said someone else had said to her “I was going to ask you to be a bridesmaid, but I since I know you won’t be there, I decided not to…but if you can come, will you do a reading?” 🙁 And even though she can’t be there on my special day, she still knows I love her and she will be there in spirit.
Post # 11
Stick w/ what you have! I had three girls and he had 6 guys! It was fine!!
Post # 12
I’m not having anyone! He might… I’m not sure if he’s decided yet. I’m not super close to any girls except for my three sisters. I had planned on asking them and I know they would say yes, but one of my younger sisters is getting married in October of the same year and she wants us for her BMs. I don’t want everyone to have to buy two dresses, I want her to have everything she wants on her day, and it doesn’t bother me.
Post # 13
I would just keep the Maid/Matron of Honor, it’s special. In my case I have 3 bridesmaids, but only 2 are friends and one is my Future Sister-In-Law, and shes more jr bm age. My fiance is having his brother as Best Man and little brother as Jr Groomsmen. However, I have NO maid of honor. I didn’t feel like I was close enough to anyone to ask them to fill that role. I am wondering if I should even have a speech, because of this.
My fiance’s family feels funny because he doesn’t have any friends as a groomsmen and I have 3 bridesmaids, but I do think the fact that he has a Best Man makes up for the fact that I have one extra Bridesmaid or Best Man. I feel a bit weird I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor actually. Also, I don’t expect my bridesmaids to do much, except be in the wedding. However, they are throwing me a bridal shower.
Post # 14
Another option is to have Maid/Matron of Honor and then a bunch of young children–most French weddings only include children as wedding attendants. A gaggle of flowergirls can also help your pomp and circumstance feel a little more rounded out.
Post # 15
You don’t need a matching number. And you don’t need yours to be only female. If you have brothers, for example, you could make them bridesmen. It’s just a question of whom you feel comfortable having stand beside you.
Post # 16
I just had one maid of honor and my husband had one best man. Like you, my husband would have preferred to have more groomsman—for starters, in the past two years he has been the best man in two different weddings! I didn’t have more than one person that I wanted to be a bridesmaid, though, so he agreed to stick with just having the one himself. Instead he had one of his other special dudes do a reading, and got ready with a group of guys who would have otherwise been his groomsmen. He and I also made sure to tell the guys who would have been groomsmen that he would have chosen them, but that it’s my fault that we were sticking with one each. 🙂
I agree with everyone here that it is fine for you to have uneven numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen. I know that I personally did not want to do that, though, because it would make me self-conscious about the fact that I only had one person I wanted to ask. Could you ask your husband to stick with the one, and give some other men he wants to honor special “jobs” or something?