(Closed) I have no feelings at all towards our wedding

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Aw. That is no good!  It almost sounds like the stress has gotten to you and you’ve gone ‘numb’ to everything.  A friend of mine had that experience right before her wedding as well.  Once it got down to the wire, she got excited and happy again.

Hang in there – I have a feeling you will come around!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@CaraMia10: oh I had that too!! right up until the rehearsal dinner!! trust me.. you will start to feel it on the day wether it be nerves or extreme happiness! It worked really well for me to run a long bath and actually read a bit of a book, I also started to think about the honeymoon also.. that made me excited of the new places we were going to see, so I did researching on that. Just try to keep yourself busy would be my advice!

Hope you have a great day tho!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

the week of the wedding, i was really stressed out about last minute DIYs before the wedding that i only wanted the wedding to be OVER! BUT, i got more and more excited as the date approaches and i was super hyped the day of!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I think after planning for so long, it’s almost as if you become “numb”, if that makes sense at all.  But as others have said, on the day of the wedding, feelings will come back to you about the wedding.  This is normal though from what I’ve read from others and myself.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@CaraMia10: I’m feeling the same way! It’s getting to me and freaked me out a little but after reading your post, I guess it’s normal.

Good luck to us this Sunday! I’m sure we’ll feel it then!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Nothing’s wrong with you. You feel the way you feel.

Probably it’s just that the planning and projects are done and now there’s not much else to do except wait. So you’re waiting.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Haha, I felt the same way! After all the planning and stressing the week before the wedding was an anticlimax – my friends kept asking me if I was nervous etc, but I just felt calm and indifferent, like the whole show was on the road, I had done what I could and now it was time to see it through.  Even on the actual day I was dead calm and organised…until I stepped into the church with my dad. I almost burst into tears and was shaking by the time I made it to the altar, I was that excited and happy. I think it’s just you keeping yourself in check until the big day…

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

OMG, I was just about to start this thread! I said to my Fiance yesterday that I was worried there was something wrong with me. Our wedding is October 30th and I feel like it hasn’t “hit me” yet. I don’t really feel like it’s happening. It’s all surreal and it’s so much work.

I think @SM1982 had it right — we’ve been engaged since July 2009, so I feel like I’ve been planning for ages.

I wasn’t one of those girls who hsa been planning her wedding since she was little, I was skeptical of even getting married until I met my Fiance, and my work has been so insanely busy & intense since September. 

I wouldn’t say I feel nothing. I just feel like everything is really far off in the distance and I have minimal feelings of excitement.  I feel like I still have so much time to get everything done.  I don’t WANT to feel this way and I want to figure out how to get more emotionally engaged in the final weeks of the process.

Any other advice, bees?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have about 5 1/2 months left and I’ve started calling it the d*mn wedding and stupid wedding crap. lol I think it’s just stress. We brides put our very all into these weddings and with emotions all over the board until that day arrives. Sometimes I’m all excited and all pumped up for these DIY porjects I have then other days I’m like if I have to look at another wedding dress or centerpiece I’m going to scream! lol I’m sure when you wake up the morning of your wedding you won’t be able to stop smiling…well at least we hope so anyway. No worries if not then just come back to WB and we’ll talk you through it Laughing!

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