(Closed) I have no idea what my niece and nephew will do in the wedding

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
3687 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d either have them walk down the aisle with the other niece and nephew, or maybe not participate at all. If you’d rather minimize the number of “mini-participants” I think that’s fine.

Post # 4
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would have your niece pass out programs/bubbles/etc. at the ceremony, if applicable. At her age it would be a good choice for her.

For your nephew who’s 3, I think you have to use your judgment because you know what type of 3 year old he is. Some are quite capable of having a role, others not so much. He could potentially assist his sister in handing things to people as they enter, or, you could consider another job for him. He may not need a role since he is not really going to remember, but you obviously don’t want to leave him out, so perhaps you could have him walk up behind the other two carrying the sign with a ring pillow. I know you said you didn’t want a traditional ring bearer/flower girl, but this may be your only way to incorporate him.

The other solution, depending on the ages of your FIs niece and nephew are to pair them up – the two eldest help to distribute programs, and the two youngest walk up the aisle with the sign.

Otherwise, don’t feel you MUST include them. You can always just tell your brother not to worry about it. 

Post # 5
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

They could hand out programs or bubbles or help bring grandma to her seat?

Or help anyone to their seats, really!

Post # 6
1106 posts
Bumble bee

What PPs have said, if anything.  Or maybe have them say something along the lines of ‘I can’t wait for you to be our Uncle’ or just something cute during the ceremony because kids are cute!

Post # 7
46968 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your stepbrother asked you if you wanted his children to do anything.

You can answer “No thanks.We are not having a ring bearer or flower girl.” or “Just attend the wedding!” (if you are having children attend.)

Post # 8
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You can just say no to the question. You don’t have to include every small child in your extended family. 

Post # 10
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Could your niece pass stuff out and your nephew “escort” your mom down the aisle if you’re walking with your dad? 

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