Post # 1
I am beyond stressed Bees and I have no idea what to do! My mother is bi-polar and borderline and is a MESS right now. She’s called me twice today screaming and crying and not making any sense at all. Like literally she just sobs and sobs and sobs when she calls. I’m 9 hours away and my mother has alienated her friends and my stepfather has left her. I just don’t know what to do when she calls anymore. I’m tempted not to pick up the phone because it never helps anything (ie: she never feels better when the call is over) and I am just stressed and upset. Yet, I don’t want to not pick up. But I really can’t deal with these calls so many times a day. She keeps saying she’s sorry but she just doesn’t know what to do and I just want to tell her to deal with it. Because seriously, that’s all that’s left to do. I’ve tried to help, my stepfather tried to help for awhile, her friends tried to help, she’s tried counseling (but always stops), and medication (she also stops taking this too) and I just don’t know what to say to her anymore. Just needed to vent and maybe see if anyone has been through anything remotely similar or has any thoughts.
Post # 3
I have a sister who is bipolar and schizophrenic. The way you desribe your mother reminds me of my sister when she isn’t on her medication. Her medication is really the only thing that helps her. Sometimes she refuses to take it, and all hell breaks loose!
Honestly, there may be nothing you CAN do. I say answer and talk her through whatever crisis she has at that moment, but maybe don’t answer every time and she will kind of calm down on her own. My sister always does anyway.
Your mother really needs to be on medication. I know noone can MAKE her take it, but it’s the only thing that helps my sister.
Post # 4
It definitely sounds like she could benefit from returning to therapy and medications. But also suggest Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) group. If she is truly diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder this would be a great modality of treatment for her. Also Borderlines typically need someone to be validating, and caring, at the same time provide consistent boundries and limits without being invalidating. Hopefully it helps, but truly she is the only one who can make her better. Family can be supportive and involved in treatment, but she needs to be the one who is consistent with medications and therapy.
Post # 5
If you are really concerned, call the family services in her area and see if they will go do a well check on her. If she qualifies, they can offer her some services that will benefit her. I had to do this with my bio father and it has helped immensely.