(Closed) I have no idea where to start and it's stressing me out so much…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Monicaab:  Search online, go to bridal shows and ask anyone you know! Have you considered a destination wedding? It would be perfect for you since you don’t want many people, you may have family/friends that would have to travel to where you live now, and includes much less planning than a “traditional” wedding!

Post # 4
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

I have lived in this area for less than 2 years so planning a wedding has been interesting! You have lots of time to explore and see what little hidden gems exist! We decided on a well known inn that has a great reputation for it’s food. We are having an outdoor ceremony and reception but it’s more like a dinner party in the garden. We are having a small wedding and want it to feel like an intimate dinner party, not a big dance party. We aren’t having a dj either, just an Ipod. Once you find a venue and decide on the vibe you are going for you will find that alot of it will fall into place.

Post # 5
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m in OKC two weeks out of the year, and my Fiance and I discovered the Museum of Art while there two years ago. The MoA Café has amazing food, and is very pretty inside and out (except for the construction that was going on last year across the street). I have no idea whether they’d let you have a wedding or reception there, but if you like art or want somewhere a tiny bit upscale, it’d be worth at least looking into.

Post # 6
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Monicaab:  find a venue.  go to weddingwire.com and use their checklist.  it saved me a ton of time and stress.

Post # 7
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Start with a budget and a rough head count because that will determine everything else. Then you can run your budget through a wedding budget app ti give you a rough idea how much you should pay for everything.( just a rough guide, you can change it up depending on what you want to pay). After that I suggest searching on the internet for nearby wedding venues. You should also decide how much you want to DIY and whether you are ok with renting/bringing everything into a venue (eg if you have a wedding in a park) or whether you want to go for a venue that will do everything for you. 

Post # 8
5883 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Monicaab:  Make a list of all the different parts of a wedding– dress, accessories, invitations, men’s clothes, flowers, photographer, venue, food, etc. Everything you can think of. Then from that list make a list of your 10 most important things. From that pick your top 5. From that, pick your top 3. Use that top 3 to guide your choices. When you have tough decisions to make about whether to do this or that use the list to remember what your priorities were.

To find some good ideas on non-traditional weddings, go to A Practical Wedding website. There are lots of good articles about the kind of weddings you like. Also she put out a great book to help you make decisions that work for you and how to stand by them.

Make the wedding look any way you want. If you dont want dancing, then dont (have a lunch wedding). Dont let the outside world dictate how it should look.

Post # 9
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just wanted to say great date 🙂  And hugs, I definitely get it!  We eloped just the two of us and I have no regrets! 

Post # 11
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

One of my girlfriends advised me- “wedding planning is like learning to drive a car. At first, it’s so overwhelming- “how am I ever going to do this?” Just take baby steps, and it’ll work.”

Venue, guest list, budget- those three are importantages in your early planning. And initial guest list should come first- if you decide you really want to invite 75 people vs 25, it’ll greatly impact both your venue and budget.


Post # 12
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Monicaab:  Hate traditional weddings?  Look at some non-traditional sites for inspiration.  Offbeat Bride and A Practical Wedding are good starts.

Just remember, a wedding is just a party with some vows!! You can plan a party, right??

Post # 14
4 posts

I’ve never planned a wedding so I can’t help you there, but I’ve lived in the OKC metro area for the last 6-7 years. One of my friends is getting married this spring at the Will Rogers Garden’s Charles E. Sparks Rose Garden in NW OKC. She said it was very affordable. She isn’t going to have a traditional reception, but she is having a BBQ in one of the picnic shelters.

Also, I’ve heard of people getting married at Reaves park.


Post # 15
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Monicaab:  Join theknot.com. Use the checklist, it’s super helpful! You can just check things off that you don’t want and it will narrow it down for you.

Post # 16
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would start by picking by making a budget, guest list & overall theme for your wedding.

Do you want a sleep/modern wedding? Intimate/romantic? Rustic/vintage?

Are you wanting a morning wedding, evening, or all night affair?

Once you answer these questions you can start looking and venues.. having in mind what kind of theme you will can help narrow down your venue options.

Once you find a venue you love and book it, everything becomes MUCH easier!

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