Post # 1
So I’ll try to be as brief as possible: My fiance and I got engaged this past September, and we’re trying to figure out where/when to get married. We’re both located in the South, with him in Louisiana for the Air Force and me in Texas. My family resides in TX while his is up in PA, and I’m trying to figure out how to have a wedding for both families to attend. Our families don’t have a lot of money, and a lot are older, so if for instance, we had it in TX, not all of his would be able to attend (and vice versa). We thought of doing a courthouse wedding with just the two of us, but both our families said they’d want to be there to see us get married.
What are your thoughts? I’m trying to consider the pros and cons of each, and yes I’d love to have a medium-sized ceremony/reception but I’d want both families to have an equal chance to attend, which would be difficult. Someone suggested we have two ceremonies in each state, and another said to get married at a courthouse first, and do a big casual celebration with both families down the following year, and make our own vows up then.
I’m tryingt to please both families, while making sure my fiancee and I both do what makes us ultimately happy. Thank you in advance!!
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Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
This is a tough one, but it sounds like no matter what you do it’ll be difficult for someone. Ultimately, it’s going to have to be about what the two of you want first, and the family that wants to be there will have to go the extra mile to be there. Yes, travel is tough and expensive, but if my son or daughter was getting married, I’d move mountains to be there.
Post # 3
I’d do it wherever is convenient for you. You don’t want to be planning a. Wedding from states away it’s very difficult. Some people have two showers one in each area thrown by the family there. I’ve seen that a lot lately. Also consider more where your bridal party lives if you are having one I would go with the majority of them in mind as well. Lastly you have to find a venue you love that’s in your budget so the location of that might just make the choice for you
Post # 4
You can’t please everybody. That’s the first thing you need to recognize. As for your specific circumstances, only you can really decide what you want.
While I generally don’t like the traveling reception show, that might be your best option — a private ceremony with you and your fiance, and then a big reception with each of your families in their respective locations.
Post # 5
That’s very true, and I have lots of family in TX that I see fairly often so I thought about doing it there. My fiancee brought up the idea of having a courthouse wedding in TX, then doing a vow renewal of sorts in PA within the next two years, and have a reception up there so his family has a shot at attending. If we were to go that route, would I still be able to wear a large wedding dress for the vow renewal? I know that lots of our military friends had done that, and my parents did too. Some of our friends told us courthouse, then a larger celebration in about two years. Is that an acceptable thing to consider?