(Closed) I have no one to be a bridesmaid? :(

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@atlaskatarzyna: I’m sorry to hear! I know how you feel though.  I am the only girl in my family.  I am one of five children – all boys.  My cousins are all boys.  I never could hold a good friendship with girls for a long period of time.  I actually thought I found someone and looks like she wants nothing to do with me because I don’t have a kid, but in a serious relationship (she’s a single mom).  Anyways, you don’t have to have a bridal party, but I can understand that it’s a bit disappointing as well.  I hope something works out for you though!  (hugs)

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

So ask your Fiance how he feels about having a bridesman! It’s becoming pretty normal now.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The worst thing you could possibly do is ask people who mean nothing to you to be BMs just for the sake of having a bridal party.

I went to a lovely wedding a few months ago where there was no bridal party, just the bride, groom, and officiant. I suggest you talk about this with your SO.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I decided to have my younger brother as one of my bridesmaids. I have a good friend who is also having her younger brother as her only bridesmaid.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I second asking your younger brother to be a bridesman, especially if you’re close. And there’s no requirement that you have a large bridal party, or any bridal party at all. I’m just having my sister, and that’s it. You should only ask the people you feel close to and comfortable with to stand up next to you, no matter what their gender is. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Non one says you have to have a Bridal Party so if you dont feel comfortable with it, then go for it 

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I know how awkward that is! I don’t have anyone there for me, either. It does help me to see/hear about real weddings that have taken place without a bridal party. It can be done and I’m sorry it may have to be that way for both of us, maybe you’ll become friends with someone before the date who’d want to do that for you? 

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Neither did I so I didnt have any!!!!  I do not believe in “fillers” and feel that the ladies (or gents) who stand there w me should be those who were with me through thick and thin and I didnt have any relationships like that.  So it was just my hubby and I. Cool

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I am the only girl in my family so my bridal party consists of my best friend (who was first my fiance’s friend), my fiance’s best friend (who has become my friend, but is still more his), his sister, and his sister in law.  Oh, and we have an uneven bridal party because I refuse to put a “filler” in on my side so that we are even.  I agree with the PPs, go with just you, your fiance, and your officiant.  I think that would be beautiful and intimate.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I had a couple people I wanted at first but now I’m changing my mind. I suggested to Fiance to just have my nieces (theres 4) stand either all on my side and we (this owuld be harder) find boys to fill in on his side and if we cant get enough boys together to equal it out than just split it to two girls on each side of us. 

My sister and my cousin and one of my friends were going to stand in but the more I thought about it it just didn’t feel right so I changed it and Fiance is totally cool with this plan since he didn’t know who to put as groomsmen and the couple of family members he did pick might not be able to come so this works out for us. 🙂

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