(Closed) I have no real girlfriends… :(

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

At least you have your mom & sister! 🙂 No sister here and mom is MIA since I was 12. I was just thinking about my similar situation this morning. I closest girlfriends from highschool are on different islands, so it’s not like I can just drive to see them, and plane tickets are ridiculous.

My closest girlfriend (thats not a FSIL), I probably see her 2x a month 🙁 So when deciding a bridal party,  I don’t want one because it kinda makes me sad. We might have one person on each side and thats it. 

Its okay though, our kids keep me busy and I just look forward to meeting new people 🙂
You’re not alone!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Glad to see I’m not the only one!! We moved here a year ago…I haven’t met anyone yet that doesn’t make me want to pull my hair out..and all my friends back in KY kind of stopped answering texts..calls…one even tried the “Well, you moved away, soooo” routine…what? I think it just gets harder as you get older if you aren’t super outgoing..I also make too quick judgments about people and never give them a chance, so that’s my problem..sigh

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have three female friends and that’s it. But I have always gotten along better with men and have often been somewhat as a loner. Sometimes it’s months between visits/outings with two of the three.

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m the same way. I consider DH, my mom, and my sister to be my best friends. I moved four hours from home almost a year ago to be with my now-husband while he is in school and I still have not really met any girls here that I bonded with. I work at a small office and I’m one of only four employees there so I don’t have a lot of people to socialize with on a day-to-day basis! The girls there are sweet but we don’t go out after work or anything like that. In my hometown, the girls from my last job were my best buds! I keep saying I need to get involved with a church or something so I can meet more people. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I just moved in with my SO and haven’t seen any of my friends since June. My best friend is the only one I keep in touch with and he just moved to Switzerland; coordinating the 7 hour time difference isn’t easy so we talk every few weeks. Otherwise I have my SO who works 2nd shift while I work first so I don’t see him as much as I would like. I thought maybe I could make some friends at work, Ha was I wrong about that. I work in a laboratory; it is the smallest lab I’ve ever even heard of. I have my boss who hired me to carry out the project because he has to teach this semester so he’s pretty busy with his class, but I do spend some afternoons carrying out experiments with him. My only other co-worker is an undergrad who I’ve seen once since the semester started. He does most of his work on the weekends and I communicate with him via text and a whiteboard. Most of the time I’m alone at work, and then I come home and I’m alone until I go to bed. Honestly I spend time on the bee because otherwise I have no female contact in my day to day life and I get lonely.

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have sort of the same problem.  I have co-worker friends, that we talk about a lot of stuff all day and nothing on weekends.  Then I’m tight with my cousins, and my brothers, and now my inlaws, and my best friend married my brother so there’s that.  I seem to be related to the people i’m really close to.  After DH my bestfriend is my Dad.  I hadn’t really thought about it before, but I guess I am weird, my Dad and SIL went dress shopping with me.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@Pinkmoon:  I feel the same. I wish I had girl friends to throw me a bridal shower and all. Which is why I’m not having bridemades for my wedding. I don’t have close girl friends. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am in the same boat, I have 2 semi-good friends, but my best friend is my fiance. If I didn’t have him – I guess I would be in big emotional trouble.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@LibbyDawn:  

 

Have you considered joining a local women’s group? Community service organization for volunteer work? That’s a great way to make friends who live in your area. I.e. Boys & Girls Club, Red Cross, Junior League, etc.

Also, Meetup.com is where people create groups and post scheduled activities, look up your hometown and see who has activities going on and join in. I.e. walking or hiking clubs, hobby or book clubs. They have breed-specific dog play groups, etc.  I’ve moved around a lot in my life and had to make friends each time I’ve moved and joining clubs is the best way to meet new girlfriends, in my opinion. (if you’re not in school)

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t anymore either. I am loosing my best friend in the next few months so once she’s gone i’ll have no close girlfriend here.

She has been my one true friend for all of my life and all of the sudden she got pregnant, married and is moving out of state.

I have work girl friends but that’s about it now.

Honestly I’m fine with it; I have a great relationship with my parents and family. Also my Fiance is my best friend. I am content knowing that I don’t have a close girlfriend.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m the same. Lots of moving around meant that I never reonly made or kept real friendships.

Something I am wondering, though, is when it comes to inviting people to a wedding, how do some people manage to invite even 100 people? Even if I invited my high school friends plus  colleagues plus parents friends and extended family, I wouldn’t make it past 150 invites, with probably only half of them rsvping yes.

And I wouldn’t feelcomfortable inviting all those people for such an intimate and emotionally charged day!

 

So, how do people end up with such huge guest lists?

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@Casimir23:  A lot of the times its the plus 1 guest that adds up. That doubles your guest list there. And I’ve seen a lot of times where parents want to invite their friends, boss, and distant relatives you may not even know. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The only reason I still have girlfriends is honestly because DH’s college room mates both married/ware engaged to girls that I happened to get along with great, so now the 6 of us have become best friends (3 guys 3 gals).  it works really well when you are all couples, because the girls don’t get jealous that DH gets a certain amount of my attention (more of a problem when dating then marriage though).  My girlfriends from the past and I only speak occasionally.  It makes me sad to remember the good times and realize we aren’t close anymore, but we’ve all moved on with our lives.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have 0 female friends outside of family.. ZERO!

And even with family I am not really close to anyone other than my one cousin who is my best friend.

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