(Closed) I have no real girlfriends… :(

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My Fiance is my best friend and I am totally okay with it because I feel if you are starting a new life together it is important he comes second only to God and vice versa. Friends are important for some people but for me been there and done that. I am happy they showed me who they were before I got married. Jealousy is such a sin and friends sometimes become that way when they see your life changing or the man you have chosen is a far cry from what they did. They can be a help and a henderance depending on who they are and what baggage they have.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

In the boat with ya hun.  It really does suck.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I only have a few close friends ones 2 hours away and the other 2 are on opposite coasts. I had a couple more close friends back home but theyve all pulled away so I feel you. I have a few friends here but none im really comfortable calling up to go out with

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I feel your pain!  I am almost 24, and I have only one true girlfriend, whom I met when I was 13.  She lives 4 hours away from me and I consider her my absolute best friend.  SO is my other best friend.  I’ve always naturally connected better with guys and find it hard to make close friends because of trust issues.  I sometimes worry about if I’ll even have a bridal party when I get married.

Try to sign for classes in your area, volunteer somewhere you enjoy, or does your Fiance have any close girlfriends you can get to know better?

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

I am the same way. I keep in touch with two of my close friends from high school but it’s not often we talk. I also moved away for college and have yet to make a friend, besides a coworker who I occasionally hang out with after work. Luckily I’ve got my SO and family whom I am very close with. I usually prefer it this way since I am an introvert and just generally prefer being alone. But I sometimes wish I had a friend that lived close by that I could do girly things with.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have nobody I would consider a true friend except my hubby. At school I had a huge group of friends which dwindled down and the one best friend I had left drifted off after I met my now hubby 6yrs ago. I have work colleagues who go out together but I’m never invited- I always seem to be the loner. Infact nobody knows that the real reason I didn’t have a bridal party is because I couldn’t even come up with 1 friend to have and I’m not close enough with any family to have had a bridesmaid. Hubby is very similar to me and it gets really depressing sometimes. We both hope if we are lucky enough to have kids it may lead us to meet some people

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

When we grow up we tend to only stay close to a smaller select few. I have 2 friends I can always count on to be there for anything, and one closer friend that’s a bit flaky and always on the go. Me and my Maid/Matron of Honor are together almost as much as we are with our SOs.

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

I totally get where you’re all coming from as well.

So to everyone who relates? (sorry to hijack this tread if you answer), but what did you do about Bridesmaids if you don’t have any close GF’s??

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@LoveGypsy:  I’m not having bridemaids and having my best guy friend be my Maid/Matron of Honor. 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I have one best friend that I see at least once a week, and talk to daily.  I have 2 other good friends, my sister, and my mom, but I talk to them, like, once a week.  And I see them every couple weeks.

For this reason, DH and I joined Meetup.com, and we are going to our first meetup tonight, a Scrabble game night.  I’m nervous!  But we are both lonely, and we don’t want to be.  So we are actively trying to get out there and meet people. 

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