Post # 1
Ok, so, sometimes I have a vision of how things should go, but this I am really stumbling on. To help get an overall idea of the “feel” of our wedding: it is taking place in a rustic barn. It’s mostly a vintage/shabby chic feel, with lots of candles & antique vases filled with white hydrangea. The girls are wearing charcoal dresses with nude shoes of their choosing. We will be carrying hydrangea bouquets. The guys are wearing black suits & white undershirts. I just don’t know what to do about their ties & boutonnieres.
It is mostly a casual venue, but I still want it to look “elegant”. There are obviously some rustic elements, but I don’t want anything over the top. My fiance (and I) like these two ties
But I don’t know if they’re too formal for a relatively casual affair? I also have no idea what boutonnieres would fit the style of these, but also our vintage/shabby chic/laid back wedding feel. Any suggestions? We are mostly doing shades of white/ivory/cream with shades of gray. I would be open to adding some blush.
Post # 3
I am a little surprised to hear that the guys will be wearing black suits in a barn, but from the sound of the bridesmaids’ attire they seem to match them somewhat.
I would choose the plaid tie in this case because the plaid seems like a reference to the location.
You boutonnieres could be a very simple white carnation which is a very classic boutonniere.
Post # 4
@Zusie: They’re wearing black because my fiance was insistent on it (I wanted them in khaki). They’ll be in suits rather than tuxes, so I’m hoping that’s enough to make it “not so formal”. Fingers crossed lol
Thanks for your input on the tie/boutonniere!
Post # 5
I love the look of calla lilies (they are clean, and not too girly-looking). You could wrap the ends in either black or dark gray ribbon.
Post # 6
I’m having an outdoor wedding and barn reception. Black and white is actually part of our color scheme, but we are making it look antique/shabby chic as well. I agree that the plaid would work better, it seems slightly less formal. My fiance really likes the idea of herb boutonnierres and I think they will work with the rustic venue. Maybe that would work with your decor.
Post # 7
I love the plaid! Sounds like you have a lot of flat colours (black, grey, white) and I think while yes it’s elegant, it’s still pretty bland overall (though maybe the decor is really flash and you don’t want too much going on). I’d suggest finding a way to bring in a coloured neutral(peach or soft pink, pale purple maybe), or else go bold with very small touches of something like the apple green, or a deep pink, or something? You could add a sash or coloured flower/ribbon to the BM’s and then the guys ties?
ETA, I’d personally go with a coloured flower for the bout, carnations are really nice, as are gerbera’s. But if you are set on monochromatic theme, then either of those in white would be nice, callas are very elegant and classy, as are freesia and Alstromeria.
I personally love this one!
Post # 8
@Take The Reins: I love the paisley ones, I was really pushing for that, but I was vetoed on that front, too. I’m making my fiance sound so demanding, and he’s actually really laid back about everything but the men’s attire (which is fair enough!). I do like the idea of bringing some blush in, I’m still trying to convince him of that…
@Nellular: Thanks! I have looked into the herb boutonnieres, just haven’t found one that really “wows” me. I actually like the formality of black/white/gray against a non-formal rustic backdrop. I think the juxtaposition is cool. Can’t wait to see what you do with that theme!
@Luv2BeachIt: Thanks. I do like classic white flowers for boutonnieres, I don’t think you can go wrong with that 🙂
Post # 9
@les105: I understand, Fiance and I have been around the block on our guys stuff too lol! I think a touch of colour would be really pretty, break up the severity of the black/silver/gray/white tones. Make them a bit softer.
Good luck, hope you can find something mutually pleasing!