Post # 137
Lie on your resume. I am well qualified in my field. I work in a freelance enviroment, from project to project. Sometimes the projects are slim. Thats when I pull out a “secretarial” resume and use it, then people aren’t intimidated. I have no ego about working in a lesser position as I know my career bounces up and down, but the bills don’t.
I strongly feel a good sense of purpose and a job will help put things in perspective.
Post # 138
@lstcos: Congrats! Anything sounds better than where you were recently!
Post # 139
Firstof all i definetly send hugs your way as well. Im so sorry that your going through a down point in your life. But if you feel like you`ve hit rock bottom it can only go up from here.
I can relate to you in a certain way. I have social anixety as well. Its so hard for me to deal with it day to day and i think you said it best, people dont understand how hard it is. Its hard to do everyday things. Starting a simple conversation with somebody, can be like pulling teeth. its painful. Please know that you are not alone at all.
Im so sorry what your fiancee has done. Its true what the other bees are saying. Marriage is for good times and in bad, sickness and in health. And if he cant be the support system you need right now, then consider yourself lucky that he showed you HIS true colours. What if this situation were to happen after you two got married? Would his response be file for a divorce? He is a coward, sweetheart.
Keep your head high. Please dont let the feeling of being lonely take over. Your strong you can get through this!
Post # 140
Find out if I get one of the jobs tomorrow and the other job on the 22nd. If I get the job tomorrow, I’m not sure they’ll let me defer the acceptance until the 22nd so what do you do in that situation? Accept and then renig at the last minute if a better offer comes along?
Post # 141
@lstcos: I’ve had that situation come up. I accepted a job with a state agency and was offered another job with another agency that better suited my career goals. I called the first one back and told them that I had received another offer and was taking it instead. They were actually pretty understanding.
Post # 142
@lstcos: I would not renig, that looks really bad and people ususally do not like you doing that, honesty is the best policy. If they do offer you the job tell them you would like some time the 22nd is no that far away, and who knows they may offer you more $ to chose them?
If you do decide to go with them make sure you re 100% sure you will stay there, dont tell them you accept the job then tell them you have changed your mind, its not honest
Post # 143
@lstcos: You have to protect yourself, so if I were you, I would accept this job and push my start date to the 26th. There is no guarantee you will get the other offer. If you do get it, and you decide that you want to reneg on the first job, it will not be the end of the world. It happens in business all the time. After being unemployed for a long period of time, I would not put an offer in jeopardy for something else that is not guaranteed. Good luck!
Post # 145
Hi Bees, I didn’t get either job. I think they could tell, when it came down to choosing the best candidate, that even though I was trying to fake it, my heart just wasn’t truly there. I cashed out the remainder of my 401k, and other assets I had and I moved back to Austin (so glad I wasted thousands of dollars to move up to DC only to live there for 4 months and then move right back…..) and I’m living in a rent by the week motel until something opens up. The Fiance asked me to come back so we can work on it. He let me leave without saying a word and even helped me pack my things. No matter how much I’d love to be with him, I’d be a fool to go back again. At least he gave me the money he made selling the ring back and that should get me through at least 4 months down here so he wasn’t a total wash. So wish me luck out there. I haven’t started looking for jobs yet because I just got down here last weekend, but here goes nothing.
So, yes, I chose Option 3.
Post # 146
Best of luck in the new city, hoping it opens up new opportunities for you. I think your wise not going back to your ex. He wasn’t there for you during a really hard time in your life. Just keep moving forward, keep only positive things in your life. I admire your determination to get back on your feet, your a lot stronger than you probably give yourself credit for!
Post # 147
@lstcos: If your ex really wanted to make it work, HE should move to where you are and turn his own life upside down.
I’m glad you’re at least back on your own turf. That might make it easier to get your bearings so you can move on with your life.