(Closed) I have nothing. Where to now?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 137
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986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Lie on your resume.  I am well qualified in my field.   I work in a freelance enviroment, from project to project.  Sometimes the projects are slim.  Thats when I pull out a “secretarial” resume and use it, then people aren’t intimidated.  I have no ego about working in a lesser position as I know my career bounces up and down, but the bills don’t. 

 

I strongly feel a good sense of purpose and a job will help put things in perspective. 

Post # 138
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886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@lstcos:  Congrats! Anything sounds better than where you were recently!

Post # 139
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Firstof all i definetly send hugs your way as well. Im so sorry that your going through a down point in your life. But if you feel like you`ve hit rock bottom it can only go up from here.

I can relate to you in a certain way. I have social anixety as well. Its so hard for me to deal with it day to day and i think you said it best, people dont understand how hard it is. Its hard to do everyday things. Starting a simple conversation with somebody, can be like pulling teeth. its painful. Please know that you are not alone at all.

Im so sorry what your fiancee has done. Its true what the other bees are saying. Marriage is for good times and in bad, sickness and in health. And if he cant be the support system you need right now, then consider yourself lucky that he showed you HIS true colours. What if this situation were to happen after you two got married? Would his response be file for a divorce? He is a coward, sweetheart. 

Keep your head high. Please dont let the feeling of being lonely take over. Your strong you can get through this!

 

Post # 141
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3686 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@lstcos:  I’ve had that situation come up.  I accepted a job with a state agency and was offered another job with another agency that better suited my career goals.  I called the first one back and told them that I had received another offer and was taking it instead.  They were actually pretty understanding.

Post # 142
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1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@lstcos:  I would not renig, that looks really bad and people ususally do not like you doing that, honesty is the best policy.  If they do offer you the job tell them you would like some time the 22nd is no that far away, and who knows they may offer you more $ to chose them?

If you do decide to go with them make sure you re 100% sure you will stay there, dont tell them you accept the job then tell them you have changed your mind, its not honest

Post # 143
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532 posts
Busy bee

@lstcos:  You have to protect yourself, so if I were you, I would accept this job and push my start date to the 26th. There is no guarantee you will get the other offer. If you do get it, and you decide that you want to reneg on the first job, it will not be the end of the world. It happens in business all the time. After being unemployed for a long period of time, I would not put an offer in jeopardy for something else that is not guaranteed. Good luck!

Post # 146
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Best of luck in the new city, hoping it opens up new opportunities for you. I think your wise not going back to your ex. He wasn’t there for you during a really hard time in your life. Just keep moving forward, keep only positive things in your life. I admire your determination to get back on your feet, your a lot stronger than you probably give yourself credit for!

Post # 147
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3686 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@lstcos:  If your ex really wanted to make it work, HE should move to where you are and turn his own life upside down.  

I’m glad you’re at least back on your own turf.  That might make it easier to get your bearings so you can move on with your life.

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