(Closed) i have the future mother in law from hell

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cuddlz88:  Are her other sons already married? Or do they live far away?

It does sound like she feels she’s being abandoned. I wouldn’t necessarily say she’s being “snobby” but she may be feeling very alone.

Could you make a deal with her, something like we promise to come to your house for dinner once a month even after we move to show you we a really aren’t that far away?

Has your Fiance been living at home? With her partner recently leaving and if her sons are all leaving/have left too I can understand that she may be trying to hang on to whoever is left so she doesn’t feel so alone.

Maybe reach out to her and have lunch or coffee with her to let her know that you are not taking her son away and you do want to have a relationship with her as your Mother-In-Law as well as having a relationship with your own family.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

double post

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cuddlz88:  Ah ok. Then yes, she does sound snobby and a bit image focused. 

Hopefully things will settle down a bit after the wedding.

You could always tell her you’d be happy to live in the nicer areas if she wants to pay the difference. Wink That may help shut her up.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Don’t you just love pushy, controlling, opinionated, and overbearing FMILs?  AGH!  Just tell her you appreciate her suggestions and will keep them in mind, knowing full well that you have no intention of taking them to heart.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think if her comments continue to hurt your feelings and annoy you both, then Fiance should talk to her and ask her to tone her criticisms down.

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Accept it and be happy you will be 30 minutes away!!!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Stop sharing info with her. If she doesn’t know; she can’t criticise.

And thank your lucky stars you’ll be 30 minutes away from the negativity. Could you imagine if she lived down the street and was being critical to you 24/7? Yikes!

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