Post # 1
I was so relieved after the wedding was over because it seemed like nothing went right (see previous post for explanation http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/well-today-is-the-big-day) but now I find myself very depressed. I have been focusing on this wedding for over a year, and now it’s just over. I’m married now to my best friend which makes me so happy, but still I can’t help but feel down! A basic recap of the drama was:
- our minister cancelled at the last minute due to a family emergency and was replaced by someone who didn’t know us from adam and mispronounced our name the whole time, and also blotched the ceremony in general!
- My husbands dad got wasted and tried to start a fight with my friend and made a complete fool of himself, and humiliated both of us
- we had to spend over $1,600 on flights alone because my husbands work kept changing their minds on when he could go and come back… and we didn’t even recoup that on wedding gifts!
- my aunt (and later grandmother) said my wedding looked like a “discount wedding”
- My husbands sister decided she doesn’t like me because I’m “high strung’ i.e. stressed about the wedding
- my photographer was a total douche and didn’t take hardly any of the pictures I requested
- The DJ cut our father daughter dance in half (still haven’t figured that one out?) and blew an amp which left the rest of the night with music that could hardly be heard
I fly back to my husband on Saturday, but he will be working and will be off to officer school on the 7th of November. He left the day after the wedding and so there was no time to have a honeymoon, thanks military! I guess I can now look forward to planning our NYC 1 year anniversary trip…
Ugh, this was really nothing but a whiney vent but I needed to let it out!
These two pictures make me laugh though…
This is where I turned around to make sure nobody was objecting because the preacher asked that first (before my dad even gave me away) and waited like a minute and a half before continuing..
When my husband and I both turned around at the exact same time and yelled at the preacher the proper way to say our name… he said something different every time and just couldn’t get it right. Needless to say we were a little miffed! (sorry the picture is blurry, it was a friend who took it). FYI I spent 30 minutes before the ceremony correcting this guy on how to say our name!
Anyways, that is all… end of vent!
Post # 3
I’m glad things went well in the end even with the drama from your family. I love the pictures with the stories!
Don’t feel too bad about the honeymoon, my husband and I moved right after our wedding so the first trip we went on was around our anniversary.
Post # 4
I get where you’re coming from. I’ve been feeling a bit “at ends” since my wedding too. I’ve been trying to invest myself into other projects like a friend’s baby shower, making cupcakes (a tiny side business I do for friends), cleaning out the house, finding an architect, etc. Sure, it’s not quite as much fun, but it keeps me busy.
We had a lot of drama around our wedding too. Our rental company basically screwed up EVERYTHING and totally ruined DH’s day before and day of the wedding. We’re going to end up taking legal action against them it’s so bad. I’m just trying to focus on all the great things though like you mentioned, and just deal with the fall out from the rest as needs be. In time, it will pass you know? Everyone has bad stuff happen at their wedding, just some of us have worse things than others 😉
PS – I love your dress and I love the chandelier in the gazebo! That’s fabulous!
Post # 5
“discount wedding”?? Yikes, I’d get depressed too!
Well, it’s hard to go from 60 to 0 as they say. But I think you know in your heart that your wedding is over and you have a choice: you can choose to dwell on the things that didn’t work out or you can choose to focus on what DID work out. Here, I can give you one: your dress, hair and make up worked because obviously, you looked gorgeous!
My best advice is to give yourself a little something to get your mind away from weddingland. Sounds cheesy, but take up a new hobby. Think about redecorating and storing all your new stuff. Plan a vacation for next year. When you start to feel down, remind yourself that that was just one day. THIS is the rest of your life, and you get to spend it with someone who loves you.
Post # 6
Thanks girls =)
I’m trying not to dwell, but the one thing that is really getting to me is leaving my parents house for what will probably be a year. My mom sat down with me and had the “talk” about the fact that I was married now and I couldn’t come home every few months anymore. I already knew that, but hearing it really broke my heart. I probably won’t be back to see my friends and family for a year, and that was a hard pill to swallow… Living across the country sucks!
I am so happy though that I get to see my husband, because I have missed him like crazy! I’ve been gone from North Carolina for over a month! I think I’ll shake it off and cheer up when I see the husband, but until then I’m really hoping to quit feeling sorry for myself and to quit crying after I have to say goodbye to each and every one of my friends :/ lol
Post # 7
I loved your photos!!! You are gorgeous!! It sure didn’t look like any “discount wedding to me-since when are hanging chandeliers discount??? Every one of the photos I’ve seen are stunning! Get out and meet new friends. Take a class that you’ll enjoy. Enjoy looking at your wonderful pictures and you’ll feel better about the wedding too in a little while. Keep in touch with your friends through facebook or whatever.
Post # 8
Well if $25k for 75 guests counts as discount, i guess we’re cheap!
I’m not worried about my grandma… we’ve never gotten along and she’s super stuck up! She didn’t so much as give me a congratulations or a card. All of my cousins got $5,000 for their weddings! Oh well, such is life!
Post # 9
I am having a little bit of post-wedding depression myself, even though most guests will tell you how wonderful it was. I have seen some other posts about it too–it seems to be somewhat common.
If it makes you feel any better, your pictures are beautiful. And your comments are hilarious!
Post # 10
I was so stressed out the last week or so before the wedding I couldn’t wait for it to be over. haha. Overall I really did enjoy it, though. But Now we’re focusing on planning a trip and buying a 2nd car.
I think it’s mostly about keeping busy and staying positive! Good luck!
Post # 11
What matters is the outcome. And the pettiness of others in the longrun will be their own problems to deal with, not yours.
You looked beautiful! Trust me you’ll laugh after all’s said and done.
Heck at my wedding the people started to leave towards the end before the champagne toast was given, as we had guest toasts earlier in the evening so we didn’t get to do our sparkler/seashell wand sendoff. Sure I was pissed over that, but it’s ok, the food and service made up for the mini faux pas of the staff as we love our venue and the owners.
You can do a vow renewal your way in a few years or whenever you want. You can host parties and events and there’s always chances for having more planning fun.
This is the exciting phase! Throw bbq’s and dinner parties, have friends over (leave the mean Auntie who made the comment at home) and continue having a blast!
Post # 12
I’m sorry that things ended up being so stressful for you! I think I would try to forget all of that nonesense and remember that you married your husband that day which is the most important thing! Post some pictures when you get them from your photographer. I know all the bees will enjoy seeing them!
Also, a close friend of mine’s husband is in the military and she has told me that southwest has an awesome program for military. They can cancel a ticket, not lose any money and use it for another time. I think they are also very flexible with last minute changes etc… Hope that helps you out sometime!
Post # 13
darling you looked beautiful! i’m so sorry to hear about some of your wedding woes 🙁 at least you have your prince charming forever now! 🙂