(Closed) I have the post wedding blues and bad…

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m glad things went well in the end even with the drama from your family.  I love the pictures with the stories!

Don’t feel too bad about the honeymoon, my husband and I moved right after our wedding so the first trip we went on was around our anniversary.

Post # 4
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I get where you’re coming from. I’ve been feeling a bit “at ends” since my wedding too. I’ve been trying to invest myself into other projects like a friend’s baby shower, making cupcakes (a tiny side business I do for friends), cleaning out the house, finding an architect, etc. Sure, it’s not quite as much fun, but it keeps me busy.

We had a lot of drama around our wedding too. Our rental company basically screwed up EVERYTHING and totally ruined DH’s day before and day of the wedding. We’re going to end up taking legal action against them it’s so bad. I’m just trying to focus on all the great things though like you mentioned, and just deal with the fall out from the rest as needs be. In time, it will pass you know? Everyone has bad stuff happen at their wedding, just some of us have worse things than others 😉

PS – I love your dress and I love the chandelier in the gazebo! That’s fabulous!

Post # 5
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1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

“discount wedding”?? Yikes, I’d get depressed too!

Well, it’s hard to go from 60 to 0 as they say. But I think you know in your heart that your wedding is over and you have a choice: you can choose to dwell on the things that didn’t work out or you can choose to focus on what DID work out. Here, I can give you one: your dress, hair and make up worked because obviously, you looked gorgeous!

My best advice is to give yourself a little something to get your mind away from weddingland. Sounds cheesy, but take up a new hobby. Think about redecorating and storing all your new stuff. Plan a vacation for next year. When you start to feel down, remind yourself that that was just one day. THIS is the rest of your life, and you get to spend it with someone who loves you.

Post # 7
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7689 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@jamiemichelle:

I loved your photos!!!  You are gorgeous!!  It sure didn’t look like any “discount wedding to me-since when are hanging chandeliers discount??? Every one of the photos I’ve seen are stunning!  Get out and meet new friends. Take a class that you’ll enjoy. Enjoy looking at your wonderful pictures and you’ll feel better about the wedding too in a little while.  Keep in touch with your friends through facebook or whatever.

Post # 9
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am having a little bit of post-wedding depression myself, even though most guests will tell you how wonderful it was.  I have seen some other posts about it too–it seems to be somewhat common.

If it makes you feel any better, your pictures are beautiful.  And your comments are hilarious!

Post # 10
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5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was so stressed out the last week or so before the wedding I couldn’t wait for it to be over. haha. Overall I really did enjoy it, though. But Now we’re focusing on planning a trip and buying a 2nd car.

I think it’s mostly about keeping busy and staying positive! Good luck!

Post # 11
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7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

What matters is the outcome.  And the pettiness of others in the longrun will be their own problems to deal with, not yours.

You looked beautiful!  Trust me you’ll laugh after all’s said and done.

Heck at my wedding the people started to leave towards the end before the champagne toast was given, as we had guest toasts earlier in the evening so we didn’t get to do our sparkler/seashell wand sendoff.  Sure I was pissed over that, but it’s ok, the food and service made up for the mini faux pas of the staff as we love our venue and the owners.

You can do a vow renewal your way in a few years or whenever you want.  You can host parties and events and there’s always chances for having more planning fun.

This is the exciting phase!  Throw bbq’s and dinner parties, have friends over (leave the mean Auntie who made the comment at home) and continue having a blast! 

Post # 12
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1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry that things ended up being so stressful for you! I think I would try to forget all of that nonesense and remember that you married your husband that day which is the most important thing! Post some pictures when you get them from your photographer. I know all the bees will enjoy seeing them!

Also, a close friend of mine’s husband is in the military and she has told me that southwest has an awesome program for military. They can cancel a ticket, not lose any money and use it for another time. I think they are also very flexible with last minute changes etc… Hope that helps you out sometime!

Post # 13
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

darling you looked beautiful! i’m so sorry to hear about some of your wedding woes 🙁 at least you have your prince charming forever now! 🙂

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