(Closed) I have to call off the wedding :/

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry, what a complicated and horrible mess!

Could you just have a smaller/budget wedding or it has to be a certain place, theme, guest list etc etc?

 

Post # 4
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m really sorry. I don’t have a lot of advice, but it sounds like maybe you need a couple days off from your Fiance to let it settle in and figure out a plan. I don’t blame you for being pissed!

Maybe hold of in calling off the wedding just yet, you never know if you can maybe salvage the date and do a small wedding that day. Hopefully the other ladies will have better advice, but my thoughts are with you!

Post # 7
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1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

this is so sad, your Fiance appears to be a little selfish 🙁 I can believe he did that with your job and then to not listen about the house.  If you guys had made deposits and put together a budget based on what they would help with I would be upset too with them not holding up their end of the deal, even though they bought you the house they said they would help for the wedding.  I think you have a lot to talk about with your Fiance, I would be really upset about the job and him talking to your boss about your position….. Good Luck

Post # 8
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4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry.  What a ridiculously crappy situation.  I agree with Mrs. Argentina – could you do a smaller/less expensive wedding?

Post # 9
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Eeks.  Does Fiance frequently make decisions (house, job) without consulting you?  This sounds like major communication issues you need to work out.

Sorry to hear you have such problems and good luck in working out your job situation.

Post # 10
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@little_cricket:  ohhh okay. Wow that is a big list!!! Elope then have a big celebraton dinner/party/ shindig with the expected guests?

Post # 14
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@little_cricket:  Definitely wait until you’re calm to talk to him, I’m sure you know but it won’t be a productive conversation if you’re still seething. You’re strong and headed in the right direction. You’ll pull through this!

Post # 15
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358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m sorry you’re going through such a terrible situation… I tend to get aggressive when my Fiance does something that effects me without asking or consulting…Soooo if I was in your shoes and my fiance said he was no longer contributing to the wedding I would say..ok that’s fine, but you will need to be the one to haggle for our deposits back, tell our guest there will be no wedding, and cancel all the plans. From what you wrote it seems like he is the 1st domino…Make him fix it..or at least ease the pain:/ I know he didn’t mean for any of this to happen. I’m just saying if it were me I would feel a tad better letting him deal with the outcome…

Hope This Helps

 

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