(Closed) I have to do WHAT!?!?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 152
23 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mimoza:  Sure, the photographers should bring a brown bag lunch and put it WHERE?  They will have a camera and equipment in their hands for 8+ hours straight. A 9-5 office job where there is probably a fridge is much different that being a part of making a wedding beautiful and smooth.

Post # 153
2354 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mybelle84:  I was only being dramatic. I’m paying for my vendors’ dinner also. Calm down. 

Post # 154
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@SeaSalt:  Yea, that’s his job to do that…if he wants to continue booking shows he plays good music. No one is obligated to tip him to do his job. DJs are mostly self-employed and own their own equipment, so it is not necessary to tip him or her to make up for anything. Certainly nothing wrong with tipping, but it’s not a requirement for DJs.

Post # 155
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Before I booked any vendor I asked about meals and tip.  I didn’t care how tacky it sounded.  Our  Photographers and Videographer will get  a meal since they are putting in over a 10 hour day.  Also, they will both get a tip.  The video guy is the owner, but I am basing my tip on his service.  You get what you pay for.

I tipped my photographer after our e-shoot and we got a ton of pictures.  The owner even said there were about 200 more than usual.

Our hall is charging 50% for vendor meals.

Also, our DJ will not be provided a meal.  We discussed this with him and he will get food at the cocktail hour at no additional cost to us.

Post # 156
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

not only did I feed my vendors, I fed them what was being served to me.

and when we found our our musicians didn’t eat (and the kitchen of the small inn was closed after our wedding) we ordered a pizza for them (their choice) and paid for the drinks.

And tipping the wait staff is like tipping the wait staff on any other day.18% was suggested, we went way over that…


Post # 157
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsRedPumps:  As a wedding photographer, I deal with this from brides ALL.THE.TIME.

Two things:

First- you are not required to provide us meals (though legally we are allowed to take a 20 minute break per 4 hours of work, hence the common 2 photographers per wedding.) If you do, we love you. And when we love you, we work harder for you. Meaning more/ better pictures, deals etc. If you don’t provide a meal for us, we are going to be very HANGRY by the end of your wedding. Meaning we aren’t going to work as hard later. That’s human nature. Any photographer who expects a full blown meal with the guests is nuts, but the food we are provided should be nourishing and sustaining. Throwing us a bag of chips and sandwiches is okay, but a salad would be better. Just remember, we are people too.  If you can’t afford to do that with the venue, either let us know ahead of time so we can prepare to take a break as needed to eat and bring our own food, or just pick up a pizza or what-have-you for the vendors.


Second- Maybe I’m a little crazy here, but that budgeting stuff should all be looked at prior to booking.  Personally, I would feel awful if I realized I couldn’t afford to pay what I’m expected (including tips and meals) and would do something to make up for it.  But, that’s just me. 


I’m not judging you, and I know TONS of people have already replied, but I felt like getting my two cents in too.  Ultimately, it goes down to RESPECTing the people around you, even on *your* big day.  

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