(Closed) I have To Fire Someone at Work..rant..vent

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 3
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

wow i would be done too. I think in the future do NOT open that door again. by that i mean telling your employee he can leave or whatever because you see what that has caused you. This guy is obviously not too concerned about his job or he would do better. And his wife coming in constantly and demanding him to come home? that is just ridiculous. I hope you find someone better. 

Post # 6
11284 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@TexasSpringBride:  that sucks.  i would dismiss him asap and even hire a temp to get the property cleaned up for the owners’ visit. 

is he still within his probationary period?  that may make it easier.

Post # 7
856 posts
Busy bee

Have you explained to him that if that continues you’ll have to let him go? I would put him under ‘review’ for now if you can? Maybe send a formal letter home? That way his wife can see that she is putting his career at risk because of her behaviour.

ETA: is it legal to fire him for that? especially with the company policy? I don’t know your laws, but in the UK you wouldn’t be allowed to fire someone for that – you HAVE to manage them through it and make arrangements so that his personal life doesn’t affect his career.

I do think this is the wife’s problem though – which is really sad for the guy 🙁

Post # 8
523 posts
Busy bee


You did everything in your power to make him shape up and he just couldn’t be bothered (I’m sure his situation is difficult but the job should be a priority and the wife should never be coming over unless it’s an emergency!!)

Honestly, I think you were more lenient and forgiving then most employers would be. Unfortunately, you are running a business not a charity and you need an employee who can do his job.

There are plenty of men and women out there who deseperately need a job. Think of those people who deserve a chance! He got his and squandered it.

Post # 9
9692 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@TexasSpringBride:  That is a very tough situation all around. I’m sorry :-

I firmly believe that personal issues can’t overpower business needs. You have done your best to be accomodating to this person, and he still isn’t performing. We are hired and paid to do a job, and if the job isn’t being done, then it makes sense to terminate the employment. You have shareholders, owners, and other stakeholders to consider and my guess is that they will be less than sympathetic as to why their property doesn’t look how it should.

I am not sure if you were looking for support or just to vent, but you are absolutely making the right decision, even though it’s a tough one. You can’t do everything on your own, and you aren’t being paid to do everything on your own. With four kids of your own, you undoubtly have your own family responsibilities and you are able to do your job. You’ve done your part – been accomodating, talked to him about his performance, and now the onus is on him. He failed to act, so you have no choice.

Post # 10
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@TexasSpringBride:  a big part of the problem is his personal life. Why does his wife have any business coming to see him at work? I dont understand wives like this, i get it your stressed but so is your husband the one having to hold down a job. I feel really sorry for the guy but like everyone said you have a business to run not a charity. That guy needs to get his life and wife together. 

Post # 11
5 posts

This is a very unfortunate situation. I’m in charge of people at my job as well, and if they aren’t doing their job and doing it well, then it’s a poor reflection on how I’m doing my job to manage them! It really sucks to let people go, especially since you feel some empathy towards their situation (you are human, aren’t you?), but when it comes down to business you have to prioritize the interests of the parties involved and it doesn’t sound like it’s looking good for him.

Post # 13
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Oh wow,  you’re really in a bind.  🙁  I wonder if his wife would settle down at all if she realized that her behavior (and in turn, his) is going to leave him unemployed.

Post # 14
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

You are in a shitty position business wise, completely with you on that.


But the part about “womaning up” you lost me. You do understand PPD is an actual medical condition, not just someone being a lazy b*tch. Hopefully they are getting her medical help. I don’t blame him for worrying that she might hur herself or their baby. Unfortunately something has to give and it as been his work.


Post # 16
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@TexasSpringBride:  WOW, I think you’ve been more than accommodating and understanding of his situation.  But unfortunately his home life is not your worry, yet it has become so because of his lack of focus and time spent at the job. 

I agree that you need to let him go.  He will need to find out the hard way how to communicate with his wife and show her that when he is the breadwinner, he cannot drop everything to be the dad at home.  That is why they are a team and she is the one home with the baby right now and he is the one working and bringing home an income. 

Honestly, I would kill to have myself or my husband make that pay AND living situation on top of that!   It’s really unfortunate that he can’t work it out with his wife so he doesn’t jeopardize his job.  He/they are taking advantage of you. Clearly she’s not going to change and he’s stuck in a hard place that will result in a new job unless you let him keep this situation up.  But if so, you’re going to be the one losing in the end. 🙁

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