(Closed) I have to give up my dog before my wedding and I'm depressed

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@wvrunner:  oh darlin I am so sorry! I would be a huge wreck if I had to give up my kitties. Can you guys broaden your search a little and have and extra 10 minutes on the commute? Maybe there will be more options!

Post # 4
510 posts
Busy bee

Depending on where you live, it’s illegal for your landlord to kick you out just because you own a pet. At least, that’s the case where I live. Is it actually impossible to find a dog-friendly apartment..?

Post # 5
1937 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh my god! I am so so sorry you are going through this! Can’t you find some sort of compromise? Can your Fiance live with you? I don’t think I would be able to give up my furbabies! 🙁 At least you don’t have to take him to the pound, but I know that doesn’t make it hurt much less. 


Post # 6
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Who is looking for the apartments? There has to be at least one in the area. I’m also not sure what his being 65lb has to do with it.

I hope I’m wrong but if your Fiance dislikes your dog as much as you say then maybe he’s not putting in an effort to find a dog friendly place.

Post # 7
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m so sorry! I would be devastated. Just a note, though: I am absolutely terrible at consoling people, so if you were to tell me that in person, I may only think to say “it’s probably for the best.” Your friends may not be ambivalent about the situation–they may just not know what to say! 


I would be a wreck though so I definitely am very sorry for what you’re going through. Maybe try what PPs have said and expand the search? :/

Post # 8
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

@wvrunner:  I would not give up on finding a place that will accept the dog. It can be Hard, I have a 75lb Pitbull so I get the size and breed restrictions. But there are apartments out there.
If you look on craigslist you can click the Dog box, or you could google “pet friendly apartments” or “large dog friendly apartments” etc.
I can’t imagine giving up my dogs or cat.

Post # 9
295 posts
Helper bee

Where are you looking to rent and what can you afford? Maybe some of us Bees can help you find a place. Also what type breed is your dog that could help with finding a place. 

Post # 10
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Do you need to have an apartment? Maybe you could look for a house to rent instead.  More flexibility with an individual landlord, plus a yard for your puppy!

Post # 11
850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@wvrunner:  This would break my heart too. I would rather live apart after marriage than give away my dog!

Out of curiosity, what are your pup’s behavioral problems and what have you tried so far?

Post # 12
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Luayne:  As for the dog being 65lbs:  There’s often a weight restriction on places (especially apartments) that take pets like “cats and dogs under 50lbs” or something.  I’ve only had cats, but have noticed it when looking.  It’s often harder and more expensive just to have any pet, again more so in apartments. 

Post # 13
899 posts
Busy bee

I feel so sorry for you. My puppy is everything to me! I would die if I had to give her up.

Do you have to go live where your fiance is living?

If it were me I would probably stay at home to keep my dog. Maybe you can come up with a solution afterwards and you won’t be so stressed for your wedding…?

I’m almost tearing up thinking about having to give up my dog… follow your heart!!!

Post # 14
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Dont give him up! you never know where he will end up:( thats so awful… There has to be an appt for rent that allows your dog. Please look harder.

Post # 15
798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I also would live apart from my husband if that is what i had to do to keep my beloved fur child. nothing could separate us, nothing. 

Post # 16
4042 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you tried the local newspaper or craigslist? sometimes the apartments that advertise with website and such are not dog friendly, but there may be a house you could rent that would allow it.

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