(Closed) I have to give up my dog before my wedding and I'm depressed

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 

It’s all in his height. Lol. That fence us about 7 ft tall. He’s only 1 Yrs old. The first pic, white one not ours, but he’s huge! I’m 5’3″ lol

 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@Silly_love:  what a mush!!! i love it!!!!! 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Try looking for a house to rent .. Think about what your doing before you do it .. If you had a child would you just give them up? We have two pit mixes and it is impossible to rent from any apartment complex .. We found finally house to rent with an amazing landlord.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I geuss my question is WHY he doesn’t like your dog.  Did the dog bite him once?  Because if something like that were to happen to me, yeah, I wouldn’t want to live with the dog either.  I’m not saying that’s the case- I’m just wondering what the details are.

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

First call a realtor (they get paid by the owner) and see if they can find you anything. Also look on Redfin.com (if it’s available in your area) or Zillow.com

Also…might be risky, but how many people can tell the difference between a 50lbs and 65lbs dog? Maybe you can rent in a building that allows 50lbs dogs and hope they dont notice. If they do, then give him back to the breeders. 

PS–please get your dog’s behvioral problems under control. Take a class, read and follow the Dog Whisper, but the people arent happy and your dog certainly isnt happy having these issues. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s a bit dramatic to say you wouldn’t marry someone because they didn’t like your dog. That just sounds stupid. So you aren’t going to marry a man who is otherwise perfect for you because he doesn’t like your dog? Don’t get that.

I like animals but my husband had a dog that I could not stand. He was annoying and I often wished he would just run away. That doesn’t make me a bad person. Some dogs I just don’t like. End of story.

 

Just because her fiance doesn’t like her dog (which NONE of you know the reason as to why) doesn’t mean he’s an asshole or that he isn’t marriage material. If the dog has hyperactive issues then the OP should have had this addressed with training along time ago. Maybe he’s fed up with the behavior and doesn’t want to deal with a dog that isn’t being properly trained. Again, IF that is the reason why her fiance doesn’t like the dog.

Also telling the OP to “try harder” seems a bit ridiculous. You don’t think she’s tried nearly everything? Unless one of you wants to volunteer and look for pet friendly apartments for her, then don’t try and make it sound like she checked the newspaper and called it a day.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@PinkMermaid:  

“He was annoying and I often wished he would just run away.”

 

Sorry, but that does sound harsh and makes you sound like a careless person. You obviously didn’t care what would happen to the dog by “running away,” starving, getting hit by a car… I would think that’s a “bad person.” 

And you obviously didn’t think or care about how your Fiance would feel about his dog running away or something happening to him. 

 

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Silly_love:  no I didn’t care. My husband inherited the thing from an aunt. The dog had a biting problem, killed two cats, and knocked over a child who suffered a broken pinky from the incident. Wanting him to “run away” was the nice version of what we were both thinking.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@wvrunner:  I have to agree with everyone and say keep looking!  Definitely contact the people/agency directly so see if there’s any wiggle room with pets or if you can just say your dog fits the weight limit.  My Fiance owns a townhouse that he rents out, and originally he said no pets on the lease agreement because he was concerned about the wood floors.  The couple living there really wanted to adopt a dog, so they had the management company contact him. His feelings had evolved over the years and he said that there’s no way concern over the floors would trump saving a dog’s life and giving him/her a good home.  If you show that you’ll be good tenants, people will sometimes make exceptions.  Your Fiance should see how much this is hurting you and do everything he can to find a place where your dog can come.  Even if he doesn’t love your dog, his love for you should make keeping your dog a big priority.

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@Silly_love:  Your puppy is soooo adorable!  I love gigantic dogs.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I can also help with the search – I’ve got several free hours in the next few days and I’d be happy to help if it meant you keeping your fur baby!

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would never give up my dog. This is just unthinkable for me and would be the most depressing bride ever. I would be miserable and make everyone around me miserable. I’m sorry your going through this but if this really is the only option, I would not feel bad in subjecting others to my misery. In fact, I would really resent my FI!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I wouldn’t do it.

 

Why can’t he move to your area? Or you live apart temporarily? Or you look for houses instead of apartments? Or surely there must be a boarding kennel nearby?

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m so sorry this is the position you’re in. Giving up a pet is traumatic. Could you talk to your future landlord about paying a higher damage deposit in order to keep your dog? Also, I don’t know what your arrangements with your breeders are, but you would probably feel 1,000x better if you gave the dog to someone you know will love it and take care of it. My friend had to do this with her dog after he became aggressive with her second kid. Do your parents have friends who are retired or do you have friends who have just gotten married/bought a house? 

Post # 46
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t do it. No way in the world. The only time I would think about re-homing an animal would be if there were bad allergies involved AND if the animal was being re-homed to my mother. Otherwise, no way.

I’m going to be blunt here, because this is so important. You don’t ‘have’ to give up the dog, you are choosing to. In your position, I would look into other options. And as an aside, I would never, ever ask my partner to get rid of his pet. I can’t quite get my head around how your fiance thinks that’s an acceptable thing to ask. Is he allergic to it, or afraid?

I hope I don’t seem rude, but I just don’t want you to make a decision that you’re going to regret. Good luck! xx

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