(Closed) I have to give up my dog before my wedding and I'm depressed

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

After reading your update, it puts things in a different perspective.  The fear biting + children thing is a huge issue.  Even though it is heartbreaking, it does seem like you’re doing the right thing if you know your dog cannot be trusted around children and you and your Fiance plan on having kids soon.  You could arrange with the breeder to get updates every couple of months, send you pictures, etc.

My parents used to breed standard poodles (sounds very much like your breeder; totally a hobby because they loved the breed) and they had to take back a dog due to some extreme circumstances with the family that had bought her. The woman who had to give her up (and her two daughters) were incredibly sad, but we gave the dog a great life, loved her, and she lived happily with us until she passed away from natural causes.  We also took back a dog for a few months when his owners were moving across the country and needed time to find a place and settle in.  This was before the internet was ubiquitous and made everything easy and fast.  We sent them updates, and when they were ready they came to take their dog back.  If you think you could ever get your dog’s behavioral issues under control, that could also be an option.

Best of luck with everything *hugs*  I can tell you truly love your dog and I’m sure whatever you do will be best for him.

Post # 79
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@wvrunner:  I’m really sorry you are going througth this awful predicament and feeling this way. Is iit possible to rent a guest house instead? The owners of houses and guest houses often tend to be a bit more flexible than apartment owners. Also, you may want avoid apartments that are professionally managed by a property management company, and look for a building that is still a “mom and pop” operation Instead.


best of luck to you.


Post # 80
2 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

Please reconsider what you are doing. You got this dog as a member of your family and that is how your dog looks at you. There are pet friendly places to live, it just may take more searching. 


Also, your Fiance and his friends hate you dog because he is hyper and has behavioural problems? I kinda want to smack all of them. What happens if you have a child and they are hyper/have behavioural problems? Before people jump down my throat, a dog and a child are very much the same thing to many (i wish it was all) people. When you get an animal, you commit to it for life. 


I truly wish you luck, and really hope you will not give up on your search!

Post # 81
10 posts

I’m really sorry to hear about the troubles you’re having! TGold had such a great suggestion, with maybe the breeders being able to take your dog just for a few months instead of, you know, forever? It might ease your stress a little at least, and maybe you could decide on a more permanent basis later. Just talk to your breeder and see if they have any suggestions, maybe.

The behavioral problems will likely be an issue for renting anywhere. I have to ask, though. If he was bit on the neck, why do you have him in a collar instead of a chest harness? Is he just too big for one? It might help with the fear biting if he didn’t have anything around his neck to trigger him.


Good luck!

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