Post # 1
I have a former roomate who is getting married a few months before me and unexpectedly invited me to his wedding in South America. I wasn’t planning on inviting him to mine, but now I feel like I have to.
By way of background, my now fiance met this roommate a few months after we started dating. My fiance was not keen in the slightest because he felt like the roommate was actively ignoring him and being rude. I just chalked it up to my roommate being a pretty quiet person who doesn’t smile much. A few months ago though, I got an email from the former roommate asking what my fiance’s name was (just his first name). Presumably this was for the invitation, because they are doing it online. I was kind of put off by that. He can’t even remember my fiance’s name???
Anyway, my dilemma is that I don’t really want to invite former roommate and his wife to our wedding, but I kind of feel like I have to. We are not going to their wedding and they live on the opposite coast from us, so I am kind of hoping that if we just send their invitation late (like two months in advance) that they won’t be able to come. Is that terrible? Any suggestions for me?
Post # 3
@vermontia: Just dont invite them. Dont invite them to your wedding just because you were invited to theirs.
Post # 4
I agree you don’t have to invite them… You don’t sound particularly close and he wasn’t on your guest list before so don’t feel you have to.
Invite who you want to be there on your day 🙂
Post # 5
Just don’t invite them. Problem solved.
Post # 6
Not to worry! You don’t have to invite them if you don’t want to. Weddings are not tit for tat so just because they invited you to theirs does not mean you have to invite them to yours. =)
Post # 6
The people you invite to your wedding are supposed to be the people you care about and want to share your day with. I wouldn’t invite them without a second thought!
Post # 7
No, you don’t have to invite them. Don’t.
Post # 8
there is no protocol that says that you need to invite them to your wedding.
Post # 9
There is not rule of etiquette stating that you must return an invite.
Their choice to invite you was THEIR choice. If they invited you in the hope that you would reciprocate, they have made false assumptions.
If you don’t want them at your wedding you are under no obligation to invite them.