(Closed) I have two middle names what to do on invites?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

We only used first and last, no middle names.

Post # 4
2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i have two middle names and actually my Fiance is a III. so i felt even then my name would look super long. i didnt want to just leave some of it out. so i just put my first name. middle initial. and last. , same for him plus his III. Another reason i did it was because our invites were going to look cluttered with so many names , not to mention just uneven.


Post # 5
516 posts
Busy bee

I don’t know- I just feel like one of the reasons my parents gave me such a long, beautiful hyphenated middle name was because someday they’d be on my wedding invitations, lol!

I don’t understand all of the hang-ups about “evenness” and “equality.”  You have two middle names, and your Fiance doesn’t.  So what?  Nobody’s names are perfectly even in length, so one is inevitably always going to be longer than the other.

As long as your whole name fits on one line, I think you should use it.

Post # 6
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Fiance and I both have two middle names – we both used them both on our invites. We didn’t use last names though, because we covered that with our parents. So it was like:




request the honour of your presence at the marriage uniting their children




Post # 7
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MissParrot:  I put in both of mine, even though Fi only has one. 🙂


It works out because my invite forms wording around a round shape inth e bottom left corner. So the lines on my invites anturally make a curve, and it works.

Post # 8
1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We actually didn’t include our middle names, didnt even think about it really. Unevenness isn’t a big deal though, do whatever you want.

Post # 9
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I put both of his, even though I only have one (short) middle name.  I didn’t think it looked that bad.  I obviously blurred for privacy, but you can still see the length for comparison sake.

Post # 10
2951 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I never use my middle name and most invites I’ve seen lately don’t use them either:)

Post # 12
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would put full names, including both your middle names and his one.  It shouldn’t make it toooo off.  Try it.  If it really bothers you (and wait like a week and check again) then just do first and last names. (but then that begs the question, are your first/last names together similar lengths to eachothers?)

ETA: Yeah definitely don’t use one of your middle names.  All or nothing for sure.

Post # 13
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We are only doing First Last. I think it’s fine! Guests don’t need to know your middle name(s) anyway. 

Post # 14
3 posts

My fiance has 5 middle names, one of which he goes by as his given name.

I think just first and last names are fine. You have way more to stress about than something as trivial as this. Seriously.

Post # 15
2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@quartzknee:  5? Holy cannoli, how did he end up with 5 middle names? Is he royalty?

Post # 16
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My name is way longer than my fiance’s. Because my parents are hosting the wedding, we just put my first and middle name, but my fiance’s full name.

Mr and Mrs MyLast request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of their daughter

DistractsLongName MyMiddle


Fiance HisMiddle HisLast

It was one of the standard options shown on a lot of etiquette sites.

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