(Closed) I haven’t slept in days due to this (probably more emotional but I had to post)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SimplyChic11: Stand your ground and don’t go. His parents are being incredibly selfish and rude.

“And especially, because his mom told me I had a lot of ass to kiss if I missed this due to my work/school.”

^Who the hell actually says this? I’d be furious if someone said that to me. Honestly, just try and distance yourself from them. It’s not worth it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Anyone who thinks being a guest at a wedding is more important than school is crazy. Your high grades mean a lot to you, and you know what? Every single day I think back to when I was in school and how I could have gotten better grades. I did well but I could have worked harder. College is an opportunity not a lot of people have, and if you don’t make the best of it you will always regret it.

Obviously social gatherings and drama are more important to them, which is a great reason to stick to your guns. Do you want to be like them with ridiculous priorities? Nooooo… so be cool, stay in school.

I can kind of see how they would think you are being too serious if you don’t want to take one day off, but ultimately that is your decision. They have no say and don’t need to do a full fledged investigation

A friend of mine once told me she did out the math (this was at a state school) and every SINGLE class you skip is about $80 wasted. That’s insane.

Don’t back down. If you do they’ll just find something else to bully you about.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow.  I missed your other threads and just caught up.  Stand your ground.  Don’t let them manupulate you.  If you give in on this one, they’ll just continue this crap forever thinking they can do whatever they want to get their way.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s CRAZY! I can’t believe they actually called the school. How disrespectful to you! If I were you I’d stand my ground. If you do cave in and go….they’ll think they can pull this shit anytime you’re not doing what they want and they’ll have you right where they want you.

Post # 6
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7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Whoa…….

I’m so sorry this is happening. Make a plan with Fiance and stick with it.

Are his parents coming to your wedding?

Post # 7
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow.  Do not go to that wedding!  You’re doing the right thing.

Post # 9
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1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m an academic.  In my world, school comes first for the [relatively short] amount of time you’re in school.  I would hope that most people would acknowledge that for these few years, school is your job and your first priority. 

 

These people sound like horribly self-centered people.  I’m sorry you have to deal with them.

Post # 10
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1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I didn’t see your other posts until just now.  Wow.  They sound really crazy.  I can’t believe they called your school!!!  Seriously!!??  That is nuts.

I’m glad you aren’t giving in.  School is so important, especially for you and FH’s future, I’m sure. 

I really hope things get better for you two.

Post # 10
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I literally just got light headed when I did a catch up on your threads them came back to this one and found out she had done this!! Oh my gracious… If your school is anything like mine…the more you get into school, the harder it is to skip. And professors not only expect more out of you, but they get to fully decide your grades without being questioned by uppers, like in HS….. Dude. I would vomit if my Future Mother-In-Law did this (though she does do horrific stuff). But wow, this is too much. I have a rule that if his mom does something my mom would die before doing or expects something out of me that my mom would never dream to expect, not taking it. I don’t have to answer to my own mother, so no way I’m gonna answer to someone else’s mama (more than I’m comfortable with, anyways)…..  but in saying that, there are obviously things I put up with because I love HIM…. this junk would make me move across the country right here. On a literal note, don’t go to the wedding. Don’t back down. No way….. Go tell your professors she didn’t speak for you, you are sorry, and that she is off her rocker…. then tell her you have classes ALL week, and forewarn your other teachers…. You, and your teachers just ignore her…  my heart goes out to you right now….

Post # 11
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217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can’t believe they called your school.  Can. not. believe. it.  If I was your prof I would be horrified.  Have you spoken with them (your profs) yet?  I hope you can communicate to them and your school that you had NO PART in the drama that your Future In-Laws are stirring up.  I can’t even imagine.  There would be no way I could be calm about this. This is YOUR FUTURE and I can’t believe that you communicated all along that you would not miss school and yet were still completely disrespected.  I can’t believe it.  I am so sorry.

Post # 12
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480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow, I just read your other posts. Do not go to that wedding!

Post # 13
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316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow, I can’t believe anyone could be that crazy and overbearing! I am so sorry. You are working hard for your education, to build a better future for you and your family.  You gave them plenty of notice, and I would personally be mortified if anyone was so intrustive as to call my professors! I hope you are close enough with them to (professionally) explain you were not involved, as previous posters suggested.

Don’t go to the wedding. It sounds like this may add further stress to your relationship with them, or lack thereof. But your priorites are in the right place, and they are only thinking of themselves. No one who cares about you would put you in this position, and going would only show them that you could be manipulated in other ways down the road.

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