- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
For my previous threads:
And yet another update.
I am sorry if I keep writing about this but I cannot believe this sh*t is happening to us right now. 🙁
I’ve cried/watched my fiance cry all day due to this drama.
Last night his parents texted him saying they had ‘good news’ I figured it wouldn’t be too good for us either way and we already made a decision not to call them till the weekend, so we let it go.
They called him this morning, both his mom and dad on the phone and started yelling at him. They DID call the faculty at MY school. Like… ALL the faculty. From the head of the department to head professor to the supervisor for my class. All in an attempt to get me out of this one class FH had mentioned to them required me to stay that weekend, the weekend their other son was getting married.
I am so ashamed they did this and kind of upset they were able to talk to all these people without my permission to do so. In fact, FH told them strictly NOT to do this since it’s kind of disgraceful for me. I have told them for months I wouldn’t be able to make it and getting my semester’s syllabi only confirmed this.
Apparently these people said it was ok to miss the weekend class but told me personally otherwise. I know in leaving campus I will be forsaking my straight A grade and also leaving those under me with no leadership for the projects we have coming up. Academically this is not good for me and something the bride and groom understood months ago. This is just a problem with his parents. In calling everyone in charge of this one class, they did not pursue the fact I have other classes with strict attendance policies as well. I am NOT able to miss these still.
So what does my future family do? Well, for one… they called FH today, both mom and dad on the phone and started yelling at him. Calling me a liar (although my supervisors told me otherwise) and that I blatantly am trying to pull away from their family because I am choosing academics and people at school relying on me over this wedding. I can’t bear to repeat the other names they called me, his dad even insinuating that FH should leave me when I never told a lie in the first place.
I was honestly told at the beginning of the year I could not make it to this wedding and made plans accordingly. I hate to think of what will happen to my FH, what they will say to him, if he goes up without me. We are already being cut off from their financial support (they are pretty wealthy) simply because FH has chosen to move away from his family and live with me. The rest of his family is not mad at us, this is just his parents.
I have been through veritable hell the past few weeks as some know by my posts. 🙁 I can’t sleep, FH hardly does either. Every day has some new crap coming from them against me.
I feel like I am the scapegoat for their son’s moving away from them. But I have never given any of them reason to doubt my character. Or reason to call me these terrible things.
I cannot live with this. I either go with FH and lose the entire battle, showing them I can be manipulated into doing what they wish. Showing them they can say horrid things about me and have no remorse whatsoever.
Or I can stand my ground and not go to this wedding, mainly because I made commitments to all these people at my university. Also, because I do not think I can face his family calmly after this whole ordeal. I want to yell at them so badly for all the hurtful things they’ve said. For all the crap they’ve caused their son to go through. For the conditional love they show him by always hooking him into their twisted world of psychoticness. And especially, because his mom told me I had a lot of ass to kiss if I missed this due to my work/school.
I feel I cannot have my grades reduced my senior year. 🙁 No wedding is worth this much drama. Sorry if this is rambling and long!