I helped pick my engagement ring but now I have 2nd thoughts

posted 2 months ago in Rings
Post # 35
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84 posts
Worker bee

I would stay away from Pinterest–you made a ring decision with your gut and then second guessed it. I’d remind yourself how much you love the style. The ring you’ve got now is over a carat in diamond equivalence, if you went up to 9mm, you’d be going to a 2 carat style. That’s a big difference! If you’re having problems with “diamond shrinkage” remember that even if you got th 2 carat, you’d eventaually want a 3! It never ends. A good way to combat it is to get a CZ band (you can make the excuse you are trying out different wedding band styles) and wear that for a week or two. Once you put back on your ring, you’re going to go WOW, it’s so pretty! I always do that when I travel and it does the trick. 

Post # 36
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3783 posts
Honey bee

bearinabeecostume :  There’s a real problem on this site in the way that women treat other women who don’t like their engagement rings. The underlying theme is that the ring wearer is materialistic and should just be grateful she has a ring at all and stifle her feelings. Drives me crazy. But show them an upgrade and it’s all flowers and rainbows. 

bride2020may :  I wanted to add that what you’re feeling isn’t unusual after a large purchaseq, but the importance of the engagement ring lessens over time. Regarding the Harro moissanite, there was a poster who ordered one and said it looked terrible in real life. I think your ring is great, but if you truly want something different and if it’s going to consume your thoughts, the time to act is now. 

Post # 37
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300 posts
Helper bee

neverbeenstungbee :  WOW you sound VERY salty over a situation that does not even involve you. She never asked you to feel sorry for her and no she doesn’t have to “suck it up”, engagement rings are a big purchase so there’s a lot of weight with that. How many times have most of us purchased a shirt or any other item only to change our minds when got home?! You need to calm down and maybe try reading your scathing comments before posting them? 

Post # 38
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624 posts
Busy bee

I had a say in my ring and there have been times I am like “Oh I wish it were this or that” but at the end of the day, we chose my ring because it was timeless and simple. Sounds like some small subtletees you want changed, which tbh… give it a year or so and you won’t care really. When we first get our rings they are all we can think about and we fixate on the stupidest things. He proposed to you with that ring, you both designed it, just give yourself some time to settle in with it. 

Post # 39
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874 posts
Busy bee

coco13 :  nah I’m good. I don’t think shirts are comparable to engagement rings lmao but nice try

Post # 40
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300 posts
Helper bee

neverbeenstungbee :  mmmmm ya sound salty girl, take that negativity elsewhere cause we ain’t here for it. I said what I said. And the shirt example was a layman’s explanation cause judging by your awful response, you clearly don’t get her question. 

Post # 41
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874 posts
Busy bee

coco13 :  and that’s your opinion. If you don’t like what I have to say, please flag it and move on. Thanks! 

Post # 42
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8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2007

I was very indecisive in choosing my new setting. When feeling pressure or stress to make a decision, plus satisfy someone we love, our own wants can take the back burner. Since your diamond is set crooked, the prongs might need to be completely replaced. So maybe now is the opportune time to make the switch! I’d go for it. 

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