I just attended one of the most disorganized, cheap weddings EVER.

posted 8 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Um…I’ve experienced a wedding disaster myself where there wasn’t enough punch (the only free drink) for the reception for each person to have even ONE glass and you had to BUY everything else, including water. The bride was a raging crazy. This was their “real” wedding (they had a JOP wedding, she decided she wanted a “real” one since he is Catholic, but then it wasn’t a Catholic wedding…GIFT GRAB). O btw she left him and then burned down their house once she had moved her stuff out…YEA.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I’d be careful complaining about certain aspects of their wedding.  Their behavior (getting drunk) is something I’d be annoyed with, too.  However, lack of music, dj, fake bouts w/o ribbon, not decorating church, are things that I’ll be doing with my wedding and dinner reception.  I’ve said this before on another post about someone complaining about another’s wedding.  When people plan weddings, they plan it about their own expectations and wants.  I’m glad you know what you want with your wedding, but be careful b/c some of us have different aspects we focus on.

EDIT: I agree, I also think underage drinking at weddings is wrong.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh my gosh. That is a gongshow of a wedding!!!! Sorry to hear after putting so much hard work and thought (and generousity!) into making a cake for them it was pretty much for nothing. I’m all for being within your budget with the buffet style, etc but it sounds like the didn’t put an iota of thought into their guest’s experience throughout the day. That’s terrible. The vases with water is pretty hilarious 😉

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have to say, this makes me feel A LOT better about all of my fears.  I half-jokingly tell people that my wedding will be disorganized but pretty.  There is no way the disorganization that is my biggest fear could ever stoop to that level!

Thank You, @twocatcupcake!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

People plan what they can afford, so I don’t like to comment on decor, food, etc.  However, the lack of organization and behavior of the bridal party is ridiculous!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I can understand being upset about their drunken behavior, and about the disorganization. While I do believe that a wedding is about the couple, I also think that whoever is throwing a wedding should make their guests comfortable as well.

But as far as the cheap decor and food, well, maybe they didn’t have the money. Or maybe they’d rather spend the money on something else. I don’t think it’s right to judge a wedding on how much money was spent.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

Yeah I can understand your concerns as a guest about timing, but it’s difficult to complain here about personal choices like fake flowers or details you may think are important but the bride obviously does not. Also, I didn’t announce my cake cutting either — no one cares 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

HA i was thinking why mention 18yr olds being served alcohol… then i remember that the drinking age in america is 21 lol

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

“We arrived at the reception area and there was a big, empty room with flourcescent lights and long tables set up with dark grey folding chairs (the metal kind).  The tables had white plastic table cloths on them and bowls of peanuts were set out.  A few of the ‘reserve’ tables had lanterns on them, but the flourcescent lighting was so bright lanterns didn’t really have much of an effect…

Dinner consisted of beef on buns, potato salad, and fruit salad on styrofoam plates with plastic cutlery.  It was served buffet style….Beer was served in pitchers by family friends walking around table to table.”

Replace beer with iced tea, and that sounds remarkably like every single church event I’ve attended in my life. Nothing wrong with that!

As to the disorganization, that can be killer. It’s OK to not get a fancy hall or lots of decorations. People can overlook that. But guests will pay for any disorganization or thoughtlessness. My sister was Maid/Matron of Honor for her best friend’s wedding, and she spent something like six hours the day of the wedding steaming the bride’s dress with an iron, on the floor, because the bride forgot to do it and then freaked out when she noticed wrinkes in her dress. It wasn’t even supposed to be steamed, haha.

Also, overdrinking and public displays of drunkenness are always stupid. I wouldn’t have any respect left for the bride after something like that!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Agree with the previous posters — the inconsiderate timeline, the drinking (especially underage), and the behavior are an embarrassment to the couple. The decor and food don’t sound like they should really have ruined your day, though!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That sounds really annoying. I can totally understand your frustration.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m going to chime in to agree with the other posters. The disorganized parts of the wedding (and the drunkenness) were awful. But the fact that it was cheap? No big deal. Some people can only afford a cheap wedding. Pretty flowers, decorations, chair covers, and tablecloths are luxuries, and should have no effect on your good time.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m sorry, but every aspect of that wedding sounds awful.  I would be offended as a guest.  If you don’t want to deal with entertaining your guests, then don’t invite them.  If I waited around in an ugly boring room for three hours, you bet I’d be expecting more than potato salad.  I honestly would have left after dinner.  I get that people have tight budgets – so have a smaller wedding. 

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