Post # 1
Hey gals/guys! I think I am in the minority here being a guy, but I wanted to sign up and say thank you to the community. I have researched rings for the past 4 months…tirelessly. I found my girlfriends pinterest (wasn’t easy…and I am a computer nerd), browsed what seemed like 1000’s of rings, and settled on one finally. This forum helped me see all the nasty sides of getting engaged (judgement from peers/family for the ring) and the bright sides (all you awesome gals that love the ring because your guy picked it out just for you). It also really helped me determine the size of the ring, style, etc from all the pictures posted here.
I decided to try out a moissanite forever one and a use a jeweler from etsy. I live in a tiny town and finding a local jewler to get the style she and I both like would have been difficult…if not impossible.
We haven’t talked about moissanites or alternative stones but her pinterest page was full of unique rings with emeralds and such. We both work in positions that ask us to save the world and all the beautiful creatures it holds so I really do hope she is ok with the moissanite. I struggle with supporting the diamond market. We are also very goal oriented with finances so getting the ring 2k cheaper is certainly a win in my book. I am going to use that money to begin paying off her small student loan that has been hovering over her (soon to be ours) head. I went with the moissanite because her family is VERY judgy (not immediate family) so she will be able to play it off as a diamond if she is not comfortable telling them its a moissanite. I choose to keep it smaller (6mm//75ct equivalent) because she works with her hands a lot and doesn’t like huge bling. Being a size 5 finger, I think it will be a good size that catches the eye but doesnt demand attention.
The proposal is due in september and it’s going to 100% catch her off guard. We have talked about getting married and its a gurantee, but shes expecting me to take at least another 6 months before this step.
Anyways, I will gladly post pictures of the ring when it arrives in a few weeks. Until then I have a perfect proposal to plan! I just cant wait and had to share this awesome moment with someone else (I am currently the only person that knows this is coming and it sucks keeping a secret to yourself).
Post # 2
somecallmetrutta : aww you sound like an adorable boyfriend, soon to be fiancé! Can’t wait to see the pictures. And as a environmental scientist I also didn’t want my ring to support the diamond industry. My (then) Boyfriend or Best Friend knew that and got me a beautiful amethyst engagement ring. I think your lady will love the ring you got her and even more that you spent so long making sure it was perfect for her.
Post # 3
It sounds like you have taken multiple factors into consideration and made a great choice. I look forward to updates. 🙂
Post # 4
Congrats! Glad you found the bee helpful, sounds like you have a very lucky lady in your life.
Post # 5
That is so sweet! You are clearly a very thoughtful guy and she is a lucky lady. I can’t wait to see what you picked out!
Post # 6
So sweet! Best of luck to you both!
Post # 7
Such a pleasant post to read! Congrats on choosing the perfect ring for your lady! And yes, for some girls it is a big deal if the guy chose the ring himself (i am the one ), you start to love it more no matter what.
Post # 8
somecallmetrutta : so cute! Sounds like you did an awesome job. Good luck!
Post # 9
That’s awesome to hear! Congratulations!
You’ll have to come back after the proposal and give us all the details of how you did it 🙂
Post # 10
can’t wait to see the ring. etsy has the most unique and gorgeous creations.
Post # 11
This is great. Now, WWP. 😉
Post # 12
somecallmetrutta : you can’t leave us hanging buddy. HOW’D IT GO
Post # 13
I agrees with pps that you have gone about this is a really thoughtful and loving way , but I just feel ( probably too late now ) a bit of anxiety about
“We haven’t talked about moissanites or alternative stones but her pinterest page was full of unique rings with emeralds and such.” but you bought a moissianite . Emeralds and other gemstones are not simulants , whereas a moissanite is . This may not be a problem at all, but I know if I had been presented with a diamond simulant when I wanted a quirky little emerald or amethyst or sapphire etc. I would be deeply disappointed , though I would probably feel unable to tell you so .
Also “she will be able to play it off as a diamond if she is not comfortable telling them its a moissanite” Are you sure she’ll feel more comfortable having to ‘pass off ‘her engagement ring instead of proudly showing off the sort of unique ring she envisioned ?
I do wish you both all the best though and hope it all works/worked out well.