Post # 1
*sigh* recently I have been under a lot of stress. I haven’t even written anything about my wedding, or posted on anyone else topics. My mind has gone from wedding to job hunting to wondering if we will have to put the wedding off and move somewhere else. I can’t help but think we didn’t think this through enough, we just knew we had to be married, I couldn’t wait any longer! So I set the date and started planning away! I’ve put deposits down, bought a dress, got a lot of inspirations and started DIY plans. I was excited, I don’t think I jumped the ball too much…I didn’t expect my roof to start leaking, I didn’t expect to lose my job right around Christmas. I had everything in order, I was in fine shape to plan this wedding. Now, maybe not. I’ve found another job, but the pay isn’t what I was looking for, I had to tap into my savings more than I would have liked to cover rent and Christmas. If I can’t recoup the loss I don’t think I will be in any shape to continue planning. I’m so worked up about it! I am so tempted to leave my apartment, even now that the roof is fixed I can’t imagine another year in this place. Maybe it’s more important to move than it is to get married….I thought I’d have enough money to do both, but maybe now I will have to choose 🙁 I’m so distraught! I dont know what to do right now.
Post # 3
First of all, breathe. 🙂
Secondly, could you perhaps follow through with the arrangements you’ve already paid for and then do the rest of your wedding at a cheaper cost than you anticipated? Darling Husband and I were really broke when we got married, and we were able to achieve our dream wedding with less than $3,000, even with 150 guests! And no, we didn’t feed them only crackers. Haha 🙂
Do you have friends and family who could help you pull it off with a bit more DIY than you had perhaps originally planned?
Post # 4
Are the deposits refundable? It sounds like you might be better off doing a courthouse ceremony and an intimate dinner with close friends and family, maybe save the big wedding for a vow renewal. Big weddings and parties are nice, but you shouldn’t be feeling financial stress because of a wedding.
Post # 5
Well, while I can’t tell you what to do month twin, what I can say is there are many other bees who are here. Some go forward and make it work, some downscale, some put it off.
But I understand wanting to be married more than anything and not wanting to put it off any longer! And it sounds like you didn’t run into this thing half cocked, your ducks were in a row.
So I’m sending you good vibes and hugs to your corner of Ohio. I hope you can keep your date and get the wedding you want.
Post # 6
You mentioned Christmas, as well. I think your friends and family will be understanding if you don’t make a huge ordeal out of gifts this year being that you have so much to pay for. Try making gifts; a knitted scarf or an intimate scrapbook will mean a lot more than a gift card anyways!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies 🙂 brideatbeach, how did you pull that off? that’s great. my wedding is small, 50-70 people maybe, my deposits are non-refundable, and i settled slightly with my venues. but when I settled I realized I loved the place I actually picked so much more. I think I will be okay, I just feel a bit overwhelmed right now. I sadly expect to have to skimp on flowers, which I did not want to do! But it’s an expense I just can’t afford. My family has zero intentions of helping me with the wedding expenses, it’s dumb, but my parents are divorcing and my mom wants nothing to even do with helping me plan it. She didnt even go with me to try on dresses! So, the stress is all my own, my fiance will be helping after spring (he has a big trip in Jan. he’s been having to save for, once thats over with he can help with the wedding.) I may not get everything I want, but I dont want to lose my date! I fought to get my reception spot reserved for the 6th! I cant lose it now! lol