- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
Since September I have been taking RCIA Catholic Classes at the church to get baptized and confirmed – It’s very importatnt to my fiance that we get married in the Catholic Church. I’ve been learning alot and tryng to embrace it.
I’m supposed to get my sacraments on April 3rd at Easter Vigil mass. Well yesterday my teacher of my class writes me and email and asks me what I have thought of class. I respond with this.
I’ve really enjoyed the classes – some of them have been a little harder to understand than others – and I have thought alot about the teachings of the church and if I accept them – There are still some things I still stuggle with but your class has been helpful in explaining them. It also helps I have a Catholic fiance at home. The biggest thing I struggle with is I don’t have to be perfect, but I can still be Catholic – For example, the Catholics view on birth control isn’t exactly what I adher by- but I just think I will do the best I can and if I understand the Catholic teaching it can lead me down a new path.
He then responds with this:
If you’re living with Joe–how should I put this?–and already having sexual relations, you should either “live as brother and sister” until you get married, or put off Baptism and Confirmation until after the marriage. It is not a great matter to put off getting baptised; but receiving these two sacraments (three, including Holy Communion) while ignoring a fundamental moral teaching (which I did my best to explain last night!) is not something you want to do. I know these situations are difficult, and you may want to discuss this with me or John Smith. But there are very good reasons why the Church teaches what it does, and the Sacraments–along with entry into the Church–are not to be taken lightly.
So basically in my email to him I reference birth control (which I shouldn’t have) – Yes, I do live with my fiance and have sex, but I shoudl have just left the topic alone. Now I feel like he isn’t going to let me get my sacraments – I’m a mess and so upset. Yes, I undertand the catholic views – no sex, no living together before marriage and all of that…
I don’t know what to do….I’m so dumb for opening my mouth…