(Closed) I just don't get it!

posted 4 years ago in Beehive
Post # 31
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2447 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

lovinmylife:  on the contrary, you have every right to be uncouth.

Post # 33
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

lovinmylife:  That is what Marriage has always been it is a mixture of contracts and negotiations it isn’t just coming down to it now. Just this past hundred years did it start to change. It’s sad that you are judging you “Friend” in such a manner. And love doesn’t pay the bills. A lot of women say they wouldn’t marry a man who doesn’t have a job, a car, or heck even a driven path. Please look into the history of marriage. And you know what if you were my friend I would want you out of my life if you were so judgey on my marriage. She may have other reasons but the benifits of marriage a leagal marriage is the whole reason the LGBTQA are fighting so hard for their marriage to be leagal. It isn’t just a peice of paper saying you love each other.

Post # 35
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811 posts
Busy bee

The logistics like insurance and taxes are a part of what is dictating WHEN we get married, but not why… We are both the type that want to get married to each other, but these factors are strategically playing into our timeline.

Post # 37
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We didn’t marry for health insurance, but it helps. I have private insurance though my employer. Husbands medical conditions will cost us about $40000 a year. There is not way we can afford that out of pocket

Post # 38
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254 posts
Helper bee

What is the background? Have they been together for a long time or is this just some random guy. Do you dislike the guy? if they are doing the full wedding thing, bridesmaids and all, it sounds like they are serious and health insurance is nothing more then a push to do it sooner. im glad you are in good health and/or financially stable but I wouldn’t judge a goos friend if she needed health imsurance and did what she needed to do in order to get it. If you are truly worried I’d talk to her about prenups and other ways to protect themselves. 

Post # 39
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3244 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Post # 42
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Yipeebee:  +1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000

Post # 43
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 1995

I don’t have any health conditions which would make this an issue for me. However, if two people agree to marry for whatever reason….as long as they’re both on board regarding the reasons (love, insurance, whatever) then who cares? Their lives to live, not yours. 

I’ve known people who have stayed legally married for one of the spouses to keep health insurance, even though the marriage was dead and over. 

Not your circus, not your monkeys….don’t want to be a bridesmaid? Then don’t. Don’t like their reasons for marrying? Well within your rights but why waste the energy. Meh. 

 

Post # 44
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

People, don’t bother. I suspect she is trolling but even if she is not, she clearly doesn’t want to hear anything but agreement.

Post # 45
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11746 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

lovinmylife:  You said she is doing this for her “football team”, which I assume are her children.

So you object to her doing what she can to get health insurance for her children. 

Tell us more about your “feelings”. 

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