- 5 years ago
I flat out just don’t like them. My Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law (mostly MIL) can be super rude, pushy and offensive. My husband has talked to them, we’ve talked to them together, we’ve stopped talking to them for bits of time…it’s just how they are. They’ve never done anything so horrible that we need to completely erase them from our lives, but I just don’t enjoy seeing them or spending time with them. My 2 SIL’s and BIL aren’t my cup of tea either. 1 Brother-In-Law & SIL constantly spend more than they have, put themselves in bad situations and Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law always end up getting involved because they have 2 kids. We interact with them on a limited basis, but do make an effort to spend time with the kids because they don’t have the greatest role models as parents. We signed them up to be in a summer soccer league, because they both have been dying to play. Brother-In-Law & SIL said it was okay to do so. We got them the basic gear, too. When we went to their game, the younger niece wasn’t there. We asked why, and SIL said “she didn’t want to play because the last game she was embarassed how bad she is.” I talked to the coach afterwards, and turns out my SIL just doesn’t bring her to practices!! We have offered literally every week to take them to practice, come practice at their apartment, take them to their scheduled practices, take them to games, etc. SIL always said no, that she’s doing it…but she just isn’t. It kills me. My neice said that her mom wouldn’t take her because she was busy playing Pokemon. SERIOUSLY!!
My other SIL is just super immature and annoying. My husband agrees, and says to just ignore her stupid comments, which I do, but eventually I’m tired of just ignoring them. His view is that we can tell her she’s being annoying, but what good will that really do? It’s not like we can just say “everytime you talk, you say something completely ridiculous and it’s annoying, please stop”. He also thinks all we can do with other BIl & SIL and their kids is try to do as much as we can to help the kids. It’s not like we can force them to stop being crappy parents, or to get their stuff together. Nonetheless, I get irritated and grumpy everytime we have to see them, which is really pretty limited.
I just flat out don’t like them. But, they’re family, and I was always raised that family is important, and I am very close with my whole extended family. I’m just having a hard time with the inlaws! Anyone else? Any suggestions or better ways to think about this?