(Closed) I just have to get this E-ring thing off my chest!!!

posted 10 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you agree with me??

    Yes

    No

    It depends

  • Post # 106
    Member
    1699 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @cardus:  Sure, I would (and do) treasure gifts from my husband, and the handmaking makes it even sweeter – just think it’s a bit much to blast all the women who aren’t happy with their engagement rings on sight with grand “I would be happy with dirt!” statements when for the majority of us, that’s not what happened. You are a great exception!

    Post # 107
    Member
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Let’s not judge those who are disappointed in their rings, be it due to size or style or both. For a lot of women, her engagement ring will be her fanciest, most expensive piece of jewelry. If a relatively large amount of money is to be spent on a ring, of COURSE the wearer should absolutely LOVE it. There’s seriously no reason why a woman should be saddled with a ring that’s not her style. I’m not saying go into debt. My theoretical “dream ring” would involve a huge pink diamond or a 2ct flawless Russian Alexandrite with strong color change, and I just don’t and probably never will have hundreds of thousands laying around to buy it, so I never will! But I was able to find a ring I am absolutely thrilled with (and even so, I still have my days where I will second guess our choice of ring, where I freak out about the cost of it, etc. – I’m pretty sure that’s just human nature). 

    As for “size queens” who lust after bigger diamonds, I can’t say I blame them! Diamonds are gorgeous and for some people, bigger is just better. I love diamonds and other gemstones as do so many other women. Maybe they prefer bigger jewelry and don’t want a tiny, dainty ring because it doesn’t match their style or existing jewelry pieces? Someone could want a bigger diamond because they have a bigger finger, not because they feel the need for a huge status rock. A small diamond may look big on one finger, and tiny on another. I just can’t fault someone for personal preference. Obnoxious and rude behavior is another thing altogether. If someone is being reasonable about their desires there’s no problem with it. Everyone wants things in life, and frankly – this is a place for women who are worrying about every detail of their weddings, we’re all having “first world problems here”. I’m not trying to be rude with that last statement, btw. It’s just not fair to point fingers or attach a stigma to someone who’s dissapointed in their ring vs. someone who’s dissapointed with their dress, vendors, wedding colors, etc.

     

    And if a woman is truly obsessing over getting a bigger stone just because she’s worried about impressing others, to appear wealthy, to gloat, etc., then maybe we shouldn’t judge that either. Chances are, she’s not in a very good place emotionally if those things are that important to her.

    Post # 107
    Member
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Let’s not judge those who are disappointed in their rings, be it due to size or style or both. For a lot of women, her engagement ring will be her fanciest, most expensive piece of jewelry. If a relatively large amount of money is to be spent on a ring, of COURSE the wearer should absolutely LOVE it. There’s seriously no reason why a woman should be saddled with a ring that’s not her style. I’m not saying go into debt. My theoretical “dream ring” would involve a huge pink diamond or a 2ct flawless Russian Alexandrite with strong color change, and I just don’t and probably never will have hundreds of thousands laying around to buy it, so I never will! But I was able to find a ring I am absolutely thrilled with (and even so, I still have my days where I will second guess our choice of ring, where I freak out about the cost of it, etc. – I’m pretty sure that’s just human nature). 

    As for “size queens” who lust after bigger diamonds, I can’t say I blame them! Diamonds are gorgeous and for some people, bigger is just better. I love diamonds and other gemstones as do so many other women. Maybe they prefer bigger jewelry and don’t want a tiny, dainty ring because it doesn’t match their style or existing jewelry pieces? Someone could want a bigger diamond because they have a bigger finger, not because they feel the need for a huge status rock. A small diamond may look big on one finger, and tiny on another. I just can’t fault someone for personal preference. Obnoxious and rude behavior is another thing altogether. If someone is being reasonable about their desires there’s no problem with it. Everyone wants things in life, and frankly – this is a place for women who are worrying about every detail of their weddings, we’re all having “first world problems here”. I’m not trying to be rude with that last statement, btw. It’s just not fair to point fingers or attach a stigma to someone who’s dissapointed in their ring vs. someone who’s dissapointed with their dress, vendors, wedding colors, etc.

     

    And if a woman is truly obsessing over getting a bigger stone just because she’s worried about impressing others, to appear wealthy, to gloat, etc., then maybe we shouldn’t judge that either. Chances are, she’s not in a very good place emotionally if those things are that important to her.

    Post # 108
    Member
    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    “2ct flawless Russian Alexandrite with strong color change…” I’m totally off-task here and I’m sorry, but that sounds amazing. I’ve never heard of this before! 😀

    Post # 110
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    i agree with you! i could care less about the size of a diamond. i love my fiance so much i could care less about a ring. actually i wanted a tiny ring, he is the one who said i had to get a larger stone to show it off. im not complaining but it not all about the diamonds.

    Post # 111
    Member
    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    @starla:  Thanks! That particular ring in the video is wild! 

    The topic ‘I just have to get this E-ring thing off my chest!!!’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors