(Closed) “I just haven’t gotten around to it yet”

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
Member
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve been married since April and the only place I’ve changed my name is on Facebook!  Granted I live abroad so dealing with everything based in the US (Social Security, DMV, bank accounts, etc…) is more of a hassle than it would be if I were living at home.  I can see how it takes a while to ‘get around’ to it – it just doesn’t seem urgent in the day to day.  But I would like to think I’d get it done once a baby is on his/her way…we shall see!

Post # 5
Member
683 posts
Busy bee

Sometimes the name-change timing can be off. For example, I’m a notary for the next four years and if I change my name in that time frame, I simply have to give up that position- there is no name change option. If she has resumes floating around, that could sway the timing too.

Post # 6
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2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@AnamCara: LOL I’ve only changed my name on Facebook too!

But I am waiting for the legal marriage certificate to come it from the government. Once that comes it, I’ll start changing it on everything. What a long process but I want to get it done asap.

Post # 7
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831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

One of my friends is in the same boat. They got married in Aug. 2008, had a baby in November 2009 and she finally legally changed her name in June 2010. Not sure what the hold up was, but that’s a dang long time to finally get the boat moving when she decided awhile back to change it. lol

Post # 8
Member
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I *want* to change my name but I just haven’t.  There is no rush to do it, no pressing reason, so it’s something that just keeps moving further and further down my to-do list.  This is to say, I get it.  At some point, I’ll get around to it, but to some people, it’s just not a big deal.  I had friends that couldn’t wait to change their names and it was one of the first things they did. 

I figure I just want to get it done before my unborn children are ready for kindergarden.  🙂 

@sulaii211:  i don’t know where you are a notary, but I am one too and where I am I can submit a name change and pay more money, get a new seal and all of that, but I don’t lose my commission if I want to change my name. 

Post # 9
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3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

It is prob going to take me forever to change mine b/c you have to go into the city and I dont drive there and the place is SCARY

Post # 10
Member
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Maybe she doesn’t want to take his name, and hasn’t found a way to tell him that yet. She might just be “putting it off” so she can avoid doing it until he gives up on the idea. Maybe not, but its another school of thought on the topic. And I agree with most others, there really isn’t a sense of urgency to it.

Post # 11
Member
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I got married in Juy 2009, and I didn’t get my name changed until early this year. I wanted to change it desperately, but there was an issue when I sent in my form right after the wedding, and I decided to just go to the social security office. I just never found the time, but I did eventually change it.

Oh, and though my name was changed when I had my daughter, I was stilll under my maiden name at the hospital, because I just can’t get in touch with my insurance to get it changed. I had to have her birth certificate fixed because of this.

Post # 12
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I haven’t done it yet because it’s expensive and a pain in the a$$. Also like others have said there is no pressing need so it does get pushed down on the to-do list. I am excited to change my last name, but not desparate to get it done if that makes sense.

Post # 13
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m not married yet so it’s hard to say, but I guess with the baby coming and everything, it probably got pushed off for your friend.

Question though…does that mean that the parents have two different last names on the baby’s birth certificate? That would bother me!

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