(Closed) I just left FI and going back to my X.

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper

Gosh, what a sad situation, I’m sorry you’re dealing with all this.

I definitely think you should break it off with your current Fiance asap.  Staying with him for another day while you feel this way isn’t fair to him.

I also think you should be cautious of picking up where you left off with your ex – like another poster said, things could be very different with him.  Be open and willing to meet with him, sure – just be careful and try not to expect too much.  You might benefit from some time as a single woman and try to rekindle a friendship with him first.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Is it possible to get away from both guys, clearing your head and sorting this out with urself. I think it is a lot. I am not in the situation but I think you need to be fair with all 3 of you.

Believe me you are in my best wishes and prayers ♥

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My only advice to you is to just be 100% positive.  Listen to you heart and don’t settle. I was ina  5 year relationship with a man I was certain I was going to marry. I went to Vegas on vacation and met the love of my life (FI). I had to go home and decide what I was going to do. I confided in my mom and she told me to be 100% sure and to listen to my heart. My heart told me go with the man I had just known for a week but thrilled me beyoud anything I have ever felt. I was judged and critisized by a lot of people, but the truth is, no one but you knows how you really feel or what has really gone on in your life. And now we’re getting married! Good luck!

Post # 20
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Helper bee

I’m a little confused.  If you felt so strongly about your ex why didn’t you wait around a bit longer to find out what happened to him?  Maybe I’m missing something in this story.  I guess I understand if you wanted to move on, but why come back  now? I feel like you already made your decision before.  I’m not trying to judge I just want to understand better.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It’ll be tough, but it sounds like you’re making the right decision. If you’re having thoughts like these, you obviously weren’t ready to marry your Fiance to begin with, regardless of whether you work out with your ex or not.

Good luck to you.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To be quite blunt, I personally think you are making a hell of a mistake. I feel just awful for your Fiance.

 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sounds like you never even physically SAW your ex in person before.  Things can be different over skype and online than in person.  You have had all this time away from him to romanticize the thought of the person he “could have been” and built up an image of a person you’d like him to be, but how can you be sure he actually is that person?  If your current Fiance isn’t the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then definitely let him go so he can find someone who will be right for him.  But I’d be really, really careful about your ex… he’s up on a big pedestal right now, and has a lot to live up to.  If he doesn’t follow through on what you think he is or what you wish him to be, it’s going to be a very hard life lesson.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@Uberprincess:  

If he initially did not introduce you to his family/ his family didn’t know anythinh about you. You do know this wud technically be a whole new relationship you will be starting. 

When you meet his parents you will obviously/eventually tell them you ‘left’ a Fiance to get with their son. What assurance wud you/he/they have that you wud not revert to wanting back you current FI?

 

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@Uberprincess:  How much “real life” time have you even spent together? Sorry, I just don’t know what to make of any other this, it doesn’t sound romantic, it sounds impulsive and kind of odd.

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