Post # 1
I’m writing this because I just lost my mom to stage IV colon cancer about a month ago. We were plannng to get married this year because we honestly thought we had more time. I honestly cannot imagine my wedding now without my mom there. We have decided to push the wedding back as we both do not feel emotionally able to plan a wedding right now, I was vey close to my mom and so was my fiance (we were childhood best friends so he has know my mom since he was about 5 years old). While at this time the pain seems so unbearable, I know that I might not be ready to plan our wedding at this moment, I was just curious if any one has been through this situation and how they were able to honor their mother through the wedding planning process, so when I am ready to start planning again, I can still enjoy the experience and have it be positive as opoosed to sad (which is how I currently feel like it would be if I tried to do anything). Thank you for your input, I know many ladies on here are very supportive and your input means a lot to me. Thank you.
Post # 3
@Nicoleeee18: I’m sorry about the loss of your mother.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry about the loss of your Mom, but just know that when you are ready, she’ll be that little voice in your head and heart,helping you along the way. (((HUGS)))
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss. Know that while your mom may not be there physically, she will always be there with you.
Post # 6
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I wish you strength during this tough time. (hugs)
Post # 7
I’m sorry! I truly wish we could all take your pain away. It is ok to be hurt, to cry, to be angry or any other emotion.
I have heard of during the ceremony lighting a candle or ringing a bell for lost loved ones. Or a photo on your bouquet. I’ve also see people cut out a heart from an old shirt and have it sewn into their dress. Miss Dragon just did a post too.
Post # 8
Oh honey, i’m soo sorry. Of course you’re feeling awful right now. Losing one of your parents is one of the worst things that can happen. You need to let yourself cry and feel awful. You’re entitled to. Planning a wedding now must feel silly and I don’t mean to sound cliched but….your mum would only ever want happiness for you. Please don’t feel guilty because life can be shit and sometimes the timing of things are awful. the only thing you can do right now is take the time to grieve and then, try to be as strong as you can, and plan the day that your mum would have wanted you to have.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I realise how generic those words sound but I mean them from the bottom of my heart. I lost my dad 10 years ago and I know how shitty it feels.
Post # 9
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Lots and lots of ((Hugs))
Post # 10
Oh god, I’m so sorry. That is absolutely heartrending. I hope that time will ease your grief, although it will never take away how much you love her.
Post # 11
I lost my mom last April, less than a year ago. We had just started our wedding planning when she passed. Not only that, but I was in the process of moving when she was admitted to ICU. Two weeks later, I had to make the decision to take her off of life support. So, I completely understand. It was not until this past December that we started the planning again, and the big day is Saturday! My fiance and I also knew each other since we were toddlers, and our moms were great friends since. Even though I am approaching one year since she passed, it is still hard. There is a lot of crying involved, but I just lean on my faith. We will have a photo of her there as a memorial. And, my aunt, her sister, is walking me down the aisle with my dad kind of as her representative. I am sure I will cry thinking about her, but there is nothing wrong with that. That is how we heal. And, without the pain, there would be no pleasure. There are so many things you can do. I might even leave an empty chair at the ceremony with a white rose on it. I totally empathize with you, and although it may take a while, it will get better. Best of luck!
Post # 12
In life the only thing guranteed is death think of it as your mom is in a next part of the world or up high looking and wishing you and ur love happiness. She would want you to be happy what mother does not, plan the wedding make sure she is a part of it in a speacial way be strong.
Post # 13
I am sorry fro your loss.
When you feel up to planning again then plan your wedding but rememebr that your mum will always be with you in your heart and memories.
Post # 14
My deepest condolonces! My heart goes out to you- I am so, so sorry for your terrible loss. 🙁
One of our family friends lost her mother in a fire- it was a tragic accident. She was honored during the ceremony when the bride lit a candle for her, and the Andrea Bocelli/Celine Dion song “The Prayer” was played and sang by the soloist.
“I pray you’ll be our eyes, and watch us where we go… and help us to be wise, in times when we don’t know. Let this be our prayer, when we lose our way. Lead us to a place, guide us with your grace, to a place where we’ll be safe.”
Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort and peace in these trying times.
You’re in my thoughts!
Post # 15
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to breast cancer April 2010….we weren’t engaged at that point. I think it’s the hardest thing to ever go through to lose a parent. I don’t think you ever “get over” the pain but you learn to celebrate the good memories.
Some of the things I’m incorporating into the wedding are as follows:
– my e-ring is actually a resetting of my Mom’s diamond
– I’m wearing one of her bracelets on the wedding day
– my mom loved to cook, so our dessert bar will feature 3 of her favorite and loved recipes and our caterer is also using some of her recipes for the hors d’ouevres
– I’m going to try and have a display of as many wedding pictures from all of our family members as possible
Post # 16
I’m truly sorry for your loss. I had a bride last year who’s mother had passes away the year before. She took her mothers wedding gown and had it altered and updated to a more modern style. She did have a photo session in the dress before they altered it though, just so she would have those. It was amazing and she felt like her mom was right next to get the whole night.